Top 5 Paranormal Creatures I’d Love to Meet (and 5 I’d Absolutely Bolt From)

Image of a Wendigo with horns and glowing orange eyes

Today’s post is a just for fun type of post where I just decide to be silly.

So, I don’t know what kind of moods other people wake up with, but I swear mine rotate between “I hope I meet a ghost today” and “if a shadow moves wrong I’m out the door.” So naturally, the idea of listing which paranormal creatures I’d happily say hello to—and which ones would send me sprinting—felt like the sort of thing my brain was built for.

So let’s stroll through the supernatural wish list I didn’t know I needed.

Five Creatures I’d Actually Want to Meet

1. Friendly Ghosts

Yes, I said friendly—I’m not talking about the sort that rattle your closet doors at 3:17 a.m. I mean the gentle ones who just want a chat, maybe a cup of tea if they can manage to hold the mug. I’ve always had this soft spot for spirits who hang around because they enjoy the place, not because they’re trapped in eternal doom.
Plus, think about the stories they could tell. I’d happily listen to someone from 1892 rant about how expensive bread used to be.

2. Selkies

Okay, look. I’m gay and selkies are canonically beautiful, sad-eyed shapeshifters with tragic backstories. I’m not made of stone. I can already picture myself standing on some rocky coastline, the wind smacking my face, while a selkie tells me about the ocean like it’s an ex they’re still weirdly in love with.
I’d be hooked immediately. Probably writing poetry about it by the next morning. It’s who I am.

3. Kitsune

Fox spirits with a mischievous streak? Yes, please. I feel like we’d get along. I’m a sucker for clever conversation, and kitsune always give off this vibe like they know ninety-seven secrets and they’re only willing to share one—if you ask really nicely.
I also like the idea of them popping in just to keep life interesting. “Oh hi, your keys? Hmm. Maybe they’re behind the couch. Maybe they’re inside a dream. Who’s to say?”

4. Brownies (the household kind, not the chocolate kind—although I’d meet those too)

There’s something cozy about the idea of a little house helper who cleans at night and rearranges your spoons for fun. I wouldn’t mind a resident brownie as long as it didn’t judge the number of mugs I leave in the sink.
I imagine them side-eying me every time I forget to dust, but honestly? Valid.

5. Benevolent Forest Spirits

Think gentle energy, moss-covered stones, mushrooms that glow for no reason. I’ve always been drawn to wooded places, and meeting one of those leafy guardians would probably feel like being hugged by the entire forest.
Plus, they’d probably smell like cedar and rain. Sign me up.

Five Creatures I’d Run From Without Looking Back

1. Skinwalkers

Nope. Absolutely not. I’ve heard enough stories to know these are a hard pass. Anything that can mimic people or animals is an automatic “turn around and pretend you saw nothing” situation.
I’m a curious guy, but I’m not that curious.

2. Wendigos

The hunger, the winter woods, the bone-chilling shrieks? Yeah…no. I get cold enough just stepping outside in November.
If I ever heard one of these things in the distance, I’d be gone so fast my shoes would still be on the porch.

3. Black-Eyed Children

I don’t care if they’re just looking for directions or want to borrow a phone charger—those kids aren’t coming inside. Every story about them sends a cold prickle right up my arms.
If a child knocks at my door at night with eyes like a void? I’m locking everything and pretending I’m asleep.

4. Banshees

Nothing personal, but the scream alone would send me into the next dimension.
And yes, I know they’re more harbingers than attackers, but that doesn’t matter. If someone shrieks near me with that kind of force, I’m heading straight to therapy.

5. Shadow People

These show up when you’re groggy, vulnerable, and half-asleep. That’s rude. I’d appreciate a creature that respects personal space and does not hover near the bed like it wants to ask if you’ve accepted darkness into your life.
I’ve had enough sleep paralysis moments to know they are not invited.

Final Thoughts From Someone Who’d Probably Still Go Into the Haunted House Anyway

I’ve realized something while writing this: I’m equal parts brave and foolish. I’d happily chat with a centuries-old selkie, but the second a shadow moves in a way I don’t like, I’m yelping like a startled cat.

Still, the supernatural has this way of making the world feel bigger than the daily grind. It whispers that there’s more out there—more mystery, more beauty, more strangeness, more stories.

And honestly? That’s the fun of it. Letting your imagination wander into places where ghosts pour tea and forest spirits hum in the trees.


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My Ghost Oracle Box Set (Nick Michaelson) is now available from your favorite online retailer.

Books 1-3: https://books2read.com/u/mBKOAv
Books 4-6: https://books2read.com/u/mVxr2l

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Gay & Queer Christmas Films Worth Watching

Man decorating his Christmas tree while his cat watches.

Here’s a mix of sweet, funny, swoony, campy, and occasionally chaotic LGBTQ+ Christmas films to get you through December with cocoa in hand.


1. Single All the Way (2021)

Netflix rom-com.
Michael Urie + Philemon Chambers + Luke Macfarlane.
Best-friends-to-lovers, small-town Christmas, meddling family… honestly adorable.

2. The Christmas Setup (2020)

Lifetime’s first gay Christmas romance.
Real-life husbands Ben Lewis and Blake Lee star.
Cute, earnest, and cozy.

3. Dashing in December (2020)

A ranch-set holiday romance with legitimate chemistry between the leads.
Handsome cowboys + snow + romance = yes.

4. Happiest Season (2020)

Okay, not “gay male,” but definitely a queer Christmas movie.
Kristen Stewart + Mackenzie Davis.
Family drama, coming out, holiday chaos. Aubrey Plaza steals the whole thing.

5. A New York Christmas Wedding (2020)

A queer twist on the alternate-timeline “What if?” holiday story.
Dramatic, sentimental, very angel-heavy.

6. Merry & Gay (2021)

A lesbian holiday musical romance — yes, literally.
It’s very Hallmark-channel-but-queer and kind of delightful.

7. A Jenkins Family Christmas (2021)

Not about a gay romance, but features a gay couple with a warm, positive storyline.

8. Season of Love (2019)

Often called “the lesbian Love Actually.”
Interwoven WLW romances with big holiday energy.

9. City of Trees (2019)

Soft, indie, queer holiday drama.
Not strictly a “Christmas rom-com,” but set around the holidays and emotional in a good way.

10. Make the Yuletide Gay (2009)

A classic in the gay Christmas canon.
Closeted college student brings his boyfriend home for the holidays. Very early-2000s gay indie vibes. Plenty of laughs.

11. The Christmas House (2020)

Hallmark’s first film featuring a gay couple in the main cast.
Their storyline is sweet and heartfelt, though not the A-plot.

12. A Very Queer Holiday (short, 2020)

Cute holiday short film with a fun, wholesome LGBTQ cast.

Dark family secrets. An uncle who knows too much. A boy who can’t ignore what he sees. Nick’s Awakening is the start of a paranormal journey where every answer comes with a new haunting.

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Weekly Roundup for Dec 6, 2025

Weekly Roundup 2.

So this past week has basically felt like me juggling flaming bowling pins while trying to remember where I left my coffee. I’ve been holed up at my desk tinkering with the second book in my detective noir series, and you know how it goes—one moment I’m convinced Lucien has everything under control, and the next I’m rewriting an entire scene because I swear he gave me side-eye from inside the manuscript. But the good news is: it’s almost there. If the universe doesn’t throw any curveballs, the preorder should be up in the next week or so. Every time I think about that, I get this weird fluttery feeling in my chest, like that moment before a jazz band counts in and you know the whole room’s about to lean in.

Outside of that, I’ve been doing those end-of-year tasks I always swear I’ll start earlier—sorting receipts, throwing away the pile of mystery cords, pretending I understand my own spreadsheet scribbles. It’s the kind of stuff that makes me sigh dramatically at my own reflection, but it feels good once it’s out of the way. Like clearing the last sticky note off your desk and realizing you can actually see the wood grain.

And because I apparently like a challenge, I put together an outrageously ambitious writing schedule for 2026. It’s one of those color-coded, possibly over-optimistic plans that looks very impressive taped to the wall. I keep glancing at it and thinking, Alright, buddy. Let’s see if we can pull this off. I’m going to try my damndest to stick to it, even if future-me rolls his eyes and mutters into his coffee mug.

Anyway, that’s my little update from the writing cave. If you need me, I’ll probably be fussing with commas or convincing myself to tackle another tax-adjacent chore.

Oh, and while I have your attention – have you checked out my latest book “Murder at the Savoy” yet? If you haven’t gotten your hands on a copy, you can snag one HERE. It’s free if you have Kindle Unlimited but also available in Hardcover and Paperback. I’m still pretty pleased about how that one turned out.

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Some Things I Thought Were Worth Sharing

Balancing creativity with the business side of being an author isn’t easy. Loved this chat with Joe Solari on The Creative Penn — lots of helpful mindset shifts. https://www.thecreativepenn.com/2025/01/13/balancing-creativity-with-building-a-business-and-author-nation-with-joe-solari/

Just read Draft2Digital’s “The Indie Advantage Issue #2” — a great breakdown of how print-on-demand (POD) works vs. ebooks. Handy for indie authors thinking print. https://www.draft2digital.com/blog/the-indie-advantage-issue-2/

Heard about Pillion? Skarsgård + Melling getting real about gay icons, kink, and that moment their characters clicked. Definitely worth a read if you like bold queer cinema https://greginhollywood.com/pillion-stars-alexander-skarsgard-harry-melling-talk-gay-icons-and-the-moment-they-c-clicked-248635

Sweden just gave Oz a new queer echo: Andreas Wijk voices the Cowardly Lion in Wicked: For Good — and yep, he’s as gorgeous as iconic. https://www.queerty.com/meet-the-swedish-sweetheart-who-lends-his-voice-to-wicked-for-good-is-keeping-oz-queer-20251125/

Want characters with real emotional guts? This post on limiting beliefs + characterization gives solid ideas to add depth and stakes to your characters’ inner lives. https://writersinthestormblog.com/2024/11/using-limiting-beliefs-to-go-deeper-with-characterization/

Holidays don’t have to fit one narrow mold. History shows even Thanksgiving/Christmas once rocked costumes, cross-dressing and gender play. Maybe our traditions have always been queerer than we think. https://www.transadvocate.com/the-traditional-holiday-was-queer_n_121434.htm

If you’ve ever wondered how to go from messy draft → page-turner, this Kristen Tate interview has handy takeaways on structure, voice and pacing that could change your next draft. Go give it a listen. https://www.thecreativepenn.com/2025/01/06/writing-tips-craft-structure-and-voice-with-kristen-tate/

Hockey + queer romance? Yes please — Heated Rivalry proves you can love hard, skate harder, and find real connection off the ice. This is the queer sports story we’ve been waiting for.
https://xtramagazine.com/culture/heated-rivalry-gay-hockey-romance-278287

Just checked out Miles Heizer’s first podcast interview with Tommy DiDario — he gets real about playing Cameron Cope in BOOTS, being a gay actor in Hollywood, and what this story means. https://greginhollywood.com/boots-star-miles-heizer-sits-for-his-first-ever-podcast-interview-and-its-with-tommy-didario-248594

Feeling that end-of-year writing burnout? Janice Hardy’s post “5 Ways to Fight Your End-of-Year Writer’s Fatigue” has some simple, real-world tips to recharge your creative batteries. Worth a read. http://blog.janicehardy.com/2016/12/5-ways-to-fight-your-end-of-year.html

Want to nail your prologue so it doesn’t feel like a preamble but a hook? Check out this guide on how to write a prologue. https://jerryjenkins.com/how-to-write-a-prologue/#WritingTips

Seeing Robbie Simpson on Finding Mr. Christmas felt like a quiet win for queer folks everywhere — proof that holiday-love stories don’t need to erase who we are. https://gayety.com/video/robbie-simpson-finding-mister-christmas

Reading about these kids out-smarting parents made me think: plot twist — one of these “clever kids” ends up a genius hacker-villain in a novel. Reality, meet fiction fuel.
https://www.boredpanda.com/criminal-mastermind-hacker-kids-outsmarting-parents/

There’s nothing quite like building a personal library that swallows whole rooms — this LitHub essay nails why bibliomania isn’t shameful, it’s devotion. https://lithub.com/nothing-better-than-a-whole-lot-of-books-in-praise-of-bibliomania/

People describing their jobs as “ambulances are horror-movie kidnappers” or “I silently judge 18-year-olds for 5 hrs a day.” This Bored Panda thread is a gold mine of weird, hilarious self-summaries. https://www.boredpanda.com/poorly-explain-job/

As a writer balancing side gigs, social-security, backlists and daydreams — this “writerly thanks” post hits hard. Cheers to the critique partners, readers, and late-night ideas that keep us going. https://writersinthestormblog.com/2025/11/wits-bloggers-share-writerly-thanks/

As someone juggling novels, audiobooks, blogs, bills and dreams — “My Pace” reminds me: it’s okay to walk slow when the world insists on sprinting. https://kottke.org/25/11/my-pace

Sometimes vandalism doesn’t mean destruction — it means clever jokes in chalk, googly eyes on signs, or cheeky street-art that makes you smirk. Check out these “mild vandalism” gems. https://www.boredpanda.com/mildly-vandalized-msn/

Pets caught red-pawed stealing snacks again. Check out this Bored Panda roundup of furry food thieves. https://www.boredpanda.com/cats-dogs-stealing-food/

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Back to the Future: My Childhood Sound System

The Great Vinyl Reversal

So, can we just pause for a second and talk about this wild world we live in? I swear, every time I think I have a handle on pop culture, it does a 180 and leaves me standing here scratching my head. You asked if vinyl records are really, truly making a comeback, and my honest-to-goodness reaction is: Wait, what? Like, I get that everything eventually comes back—hello, low-rise jeans, which I’m still internally screaming about—but records? That’s a format I personally sent off with a little tear and a “see you never” back in the day.

My Personal Media Journey (Vinyl to CD to Cloud)

I had this monster collection, you know? Probably five hundred or more albums stacked up in those flimsy particle-board shelves that always sagged in the middle. The whole ceremony of pulling out the record, dropping the needle, the little crackling sound as the music started—it was a whole thing. But then, the CD arrived. Suddenly, I had these sleek, shiny discs, and I could skip tracks without lifting my entire arm! No dust! No warping! I spent months converting my entire music life, tossing those big, space-sucking vinyls and replacing them with towering, narrow CD racks that I thought were the absolute epitome of organization. I even convinced myself the “perfect digital sound” was better. I had feelings of superiority, I’m not gonna lie, looking at people still messing with their bulky turntables.

And then, as is the way of the universe, CDs became obsolete, too. Next stop: streaming. Instant access to everything, always. My entire music library now lives in a cloud somewhere, existing purely as ones and zeroes. It’s fantastic for convenience, but you’re right, it feels a little… unreal. It’s like owning a postcard of the Mona Lisa instead of the actual painting.

The Streaming Anxiety is Real

I have definitely felt that little clutch of fear when I’m reminded that my 100-hour-long, perfectly curated playlist of obscure 90s indie tracks could vanish overnight because some licensing agreement went sideways. It happens all the time! We spend all this time building these little digital homes for our music, and they are basically built on quicksand. That’s a serious bummer. It’s a very real concern when you don’t actually own the stuff; it just lives on someone else’s server, like a digital houseguest who could be evicted at any moment.

The Return of Physical Media (Both Kinds!)

But now, the pendulum is swinging back! I was looking on Orville Peck’s site recently—you know I love a good fringed mask—and saw that his new album is being released on both vinyl and CD. A double-whammy of physical media nostalgia! I mean, I genuinely didn’t even know you could buy a new record player anymore, let alone that they are apparently being snapped up by a whole new generation who think the “retro-ness” is cool. I guess the whole ceremony of listening is back. It forces you to sit down, look at the giant cover art—which is a form of artwork in itself, let’s be real—and actually listen to the album as a complete piece of work, not just a bunch of songs shuffled around.

Why CDs Are Staging a Coup

And yes, people are buying CDs again! The cost of a new vinyl release can be seriously steep, and honestly, the sheer volume of old CDs floating around means they are ridiculously cheap to pick up secondhand. It’s physical, it’s permanent, and if you’re one of those people who believes the uncompressed sound is superior—and many audiophiles do feel that deep, resonant sound of the CD can’t be matched by streaming—then it’s a total win. Plus, you get those awesome booklets with the lyrics and the thank you notes. It’s a physical memory of the music you love, and I think that’s what we were missing in the age of all-digital, all-the-time. There’s something so satisfying about holding your favorite album in your hands. It connects you to the art in a way tapping a phone screen just doesn’t.

Full Circle and Ready to Spin

So, here we are: after ditching vinyl for CD, and CD for streaming, we are looping back to… owning things! The human desire for a tangible, holdable object, especially when it comes to art, is apparently hard-wired. It makes me feel a little less crazy for still buying actual paper books. I guess I need to start budgeting for a turntable and figuring out where I’m going to put the racks, because this full-circle moment in music history is actually kind of charming.

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Why I’m Finally Breaking Up with The New York Times (Yes, It’s You, Not Me)

I’ve been sitting on this for a while, kind of like when you know you’re going to leave someone but you keep waiting for a sign, or a horoscope, or maybe a nudge from the universe. But nothing dramatic happened—no big betrayal, no yelling match—just this steady drip of “ugh, seriously?” every time I opened another New York Times article over the past year. And now here I am, officially canceling my subscription and wandering off with The Guardian like someone craving better company.

The Slow Fade-Out

I’ll be honest: I hung on to the Times longer than I should have. Partly because it’s the Times, and partly because canceling anything online is weirdly annoying. You know those websites that hide the cancellation button like it’s a national security secret? Yeah. That.

But the real issue was the vibe—this persistent smoothing-over of Trump and the general political mess, like everyone should stay calm and treat the whole thing like a mild policy disagreement instead of…well, what it is. Every time they framed something as “unusual behavior” or “unexpected rhetoric,” I’d squint at the screen the same way I look at a bad Yelp review for a restaurant I know is terrible. You know exactly what’s going on—you just don’t trust the wording.

There’s this term people throw around: sane-washing. And wow, did I start noticing it everywhere. It’s like watching someone try to pretty-up a raw onion. Sure, call it “rustic” all you want, but we both know it still stings your eyes.

My Breaking Point Was… Everything

There wasn’t a single moment when I said, “Alright, that’s it.” It was more like a collection of sensory annoyances: the taste of lukewarm coffee while skimming headlines that tiptoed around what should’ve been bold statements; the feeling of my shoulders tensing every time an article gently massaged a political talking point into a bland, palatable lump; the quiet little exhale I’d make whenever I clicked over to The Guardian and felt like I could actually breathe again.

And then there was the bigger thing—the trust piece. Somewhere along the way, I realized I just didn’t trust mainstream outlets anymore. Not for the stuff that actually matters to me. Everything started sounding…polished in a way that makes me suspicious. Like someone dusted the truth with powdered sugar right before handing it over. I don’t need powdered sugar. I want the weird, slightly lumpy batter underneath—the one that hasn’t been smoothed into a PR-friendly pancake.

Why The Guardian Gets to Stay

The Guardian feels like a friend who shows up at your door with takeout and says, “Okay, let’s talk about this mess.” There’s an energy to it that I actually connect with—sharp, but without trying to scare me; grounded, but not resigned; passionate without slipping into ranting uncle territory.

Plus, they’re not afraid to call things what they are. No tiptoeing. No sugar dusting. No “maybe this is perfectly normal if you squint hard enough.” Just actual reporting that doesn’t make me want to roll my eyes so hard I strain something.

And yeah, sometimes I disagree with them—but I trust them more. That says a lot.

My Move to Indie Media

I’ve been drifting toward indie media for a while now, probably the same way people drift toward small cafés when the giant coffee chains start tasting like burnt cardboard. There’s something refreshing about outlets run by actual humans who don’t have eleven layers of corporate varnish over their words.

The voices feel clearer. The motives feel less tangled. And there’s a sincerity there—sometimes messy, sometimes ranty, sometimes oddly charming—that feels more honest than anything I’ve gotten from the mainstream press lately.

It’s like eating vegetables from your neighbor’s garden instead of the supermarket. They may look a little crooked, but at least you know they weren’t grown in a vat under a fluorescent light.

So… Goodbye, Times

I thought I’d feel guilty canceling, but I honestly don’t. I feel kind of…relieved? Like I cleaned out a closet that’s been annoying me forever and finally let go of a jacket I never liked in the first place.

The Guardian stays. Indie media stays. My sanity stays.

The Times goes.

And you know what? I think this is going to be a much healthier year for me—newswise, at least.

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LGBTQ+ Cinema Club: Mascarpone: The Rainbow Cake (2025)

You know I had to talk about this one! I finally caught the sequel to Mascarpone, and while it was definitely worth watching, my brain is still processing that it didn’t quite give me the same rush as the original. Get ready, because we’re talking about Antonio (my swoony boy!) and his messy, messy love life.

Quick Info:

Title: Mascarpone: The Rainbow Cake (Original: Maschile Plurale)
Year: 2024
Directed by: Alessandro Guida and Matteo Pilati
Staring (Main actors): Giancarlo Commare (Antonio), Gianmarco Saurino (Luca), Michela Giraud (Cristina)
Where I watched it: HereTV

Queer-o-Metter

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 (Yeah, this one is maxed out. It’s a beautifully, sometimes painfully, gay film about identity and dating as an adult. The chaotic queer energy is strong.)

One Line Summary

The newly self-assured baker Antonio learns that being hot and single is great, but getting over your ex is a whole different type of emotional trauma—especially when said ex shows back up looking amazing and annoyingly happy.

Standout Scene

Okay, there’s this one moment where Antonio and Luca actually talk—like, truly talk—in what feels like forever. It’s not some dramatic fight, just this quiet, desperate conversation about what they used to be and what they’ve become. Giancarlo Commare’s face just melts with regret and yearning. You can almost feel the air go thin. I was like, “Ugh, this is why I need to stop texting people from 2018.” The cinematography was gorgeous, too; the light was all soft and moody. Seriously, that scene is going to stick with me.

Favorite Line:

“For me, loving means choosing, it doesn’t mean collecting.”

Plot Summary

So, we pick up with Antonio living his best life! He’s a successful pastry chef now, running the gorgeous bakery he opened in the first movie, and he’s finally confident in who he is after his big breakup. He’s dating, he’s thriving, you know the drill. But life is never that simple, right? His old flame, Luca (Gianmarco Saurino), the one Antonio was totally obsessed with, shows up again. This brings all the old feelings rushing back, and Antonio, who thought he was over it, completely loses his equilibrium.

The movie then follows Antonio as he tries to figure out if he should fight for the past he idealized or embrace the future he’s building. He’s also trying to navigate his friendships, especially with his straight friend, Cristina (Michela Giraud), who is, honestly, the voice of reason and also the queen of sass. It’s all about second chances—or realizing that some things are meant to stay beautiful memories. It’s emotional, but also funny, because Antonio is just such a disaster sometimes.

Would I Rewatch?

Maybe — with wine.

Review

Let me just say, I had high hopes for this one because I truly loved the first Mascarpone. And honestly? While it was entertaining and definitely worth the ticket price, I just don’t think the sequel had the same unique magic as the original. The first film was about Antonio’s internal rediscovery, and it felt so fresh and personal. This one, while emotional, sometimes felt like it was treading familiar ground, and I missed that feeling of total immersion I had before.

That said, Giancarlo Commare as Antonio is still absolutely swoon-worthy. He’s got this incredible ability to show immense vulnerability without needing huge dramatic scenes. You can see the shift from the confident, stylish baker to the panicked, insecure ex-boyfriend just in the way he holds his shoulders. I truly felt his ache. It’s tough watching a character you love make all the wrong moves because they are scared of being alone, you know?

Gianmarco Saurino as Luca is also fantastic. He plays Luca with this quiet strength. Luca isn’t the villain; he’s just a person who had to move on, and his return forces Antonio to finally grow up. The chemistry between them? Still fantastic. But I just couldn’t shake the feeling that the plot spent a little too much time circling back to old hurts.

Cristina, his sidekick, is the comedic relief and the essential tough-love provider, though. Michela Giraud is just hilarious; every time she’s on screen, I breathe a sigh of relief because I know she’s about to give Antonio a dose of reality. The movie is real—it’s about choosing yourself and your future—but the original just did it better for me.

Final Thoughts

Go watch this! Seriously, it’s entertaining and definitely a must-see for fans of the first film, especially just to see swoony Antonio again. It made me laugh, it made me tear up a bit, and it made me want to bake a giant, brightly colored cake. It’s a solid flick about adulting and emotional maturity, but it’s not the masterpiece its predecessor was. Love the Italian cinema aesthetic, though—everything still looks so vibrant and a little bittersweet.

The Cinema Club Verdict:

⭐⭐⭐ – I’m docking two full stars because it didn’t have the unique magic, emotional punch, or fresh narrative drive of the original. Still a fun watch, though!

If you’ve seen Mascarpone: The Rainbow Cake — or have a film I need to add to my queue — let me know in the comments or yell at me on BlueSky

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The Tattoos We Give Our Brains

Young woman with negative thoughts swirling around in her head

You ever notice how some thoughts just stick? Like you’re minding your own business, making coffee, when suddenly your brain goes, “Remember that thing you messed up in 2009?” And you’re like—oh cool, thanks for that. John Maxwell once said, _“Once our minds are tattooed with negative thinking, our chances for long-term success diminish.”_And boy, did that one land.

Because honestly, negative thinking really is like a bad tattoo—except it’s not a dragon on your bicep, it’s a tiny whisper on repeat saying “you’re not good enough.”

The Ink That Doesn’t Fade

Here’s the thing about tattoos (the literal and mental kind): they last. You might fade them, you might cover them, but they don’t fully disappear. Negative thinking is sneaky like that—it seeps into your habits, your decisions, your self-talk. It’s like background static you forget is even there until you try to do something new and your brain mutters, “Yeah, but you’ll probably fail, so why bother?”

When I first started writing books, I used to think I wasn’t “real” enough to call myself an author. I told myself I was just “dabbling.” That word became my mental tattoo—“dabbler.” It showed up every time I sat down to write, whispering that what I was doing didn’t really matter. That tattoo didn’t come from one big event either—it built up slowly, inked in by every small doubt I didn’t bother to challenge.

Mental Graffiti and the Art of Rewriting

But here’s the wild part: you can’t really erase a tattoo, but you can draw over it. That’s the mental version of laser removal—repetition, kindness, and a bit of audacity.

I started doing this thing where I’d talk back to my brain. Not in a “needs medical attention” kind of way—more like a snarky roommate situation.

Brain: “This story’s not as good as other authors’ stuff.”
Me: “Maybe not yet, but it’s mine. Now hush.”

And weirdly, it works. I didn’t magically turn into Mr. Positivity, but those little counter-arguments started building new patterns—fresh ink over the old scars. Slowly, the old “I can’t” started to lose its punch.

The Tattoo Artists in Our Heads

A lot of those mental tattoos come from other people, too—teachers, parents, bosses, that one ex who thought sarcasm counted as personality. They say something once, maybe even jokingly, and your brain’s like, “Oh cool, permanent record.”

I had a high school teacher who told me, “You’re good at creative stuff, but you’ll never make a career out of it. You should focus on something useful.” I didn’t realize how deep that tattoo went until years later when I hesitated to publish my first novel. That one offhand remark had been quietly coloring every creative decision I made.

Sometimes I wonder how many of us are walking around wearing other people’s graffiti on our minds.

The Art of the Cover-Up

The real challenge is that negative thinking feels comfortable. It’s familiar. It gives us a weird sense of safety—because if you already expect to fail, you can’t be disappointed, right? But that’s the trick of it. It’s like staying in a room with bad lighting and then convincing yourself you look terrible in every mirror.

The first time you try to think differently, it feels awkward. You feel fake saying stuff like, “I’m capable,” or “I’m learning.” But every time you repeat it, you’re laying down new ink. Brighter colors. Better lines.

And eventually, the old tattoo—the one that says “failure” or “not enough”—starts to fade under something that actually looks like you.

A Few Mental Needles Worth Using

Here’s what’s helped me sandblast the worst of my mental graffiti:

  1. Catch the thought mid-sentence. When I hear myself thinking, “I can’t—” I literally stop and say, “Yet.” It’s such a small word, but it turns the sentence into possibility instead of a verdict.
  2. Act anyway. Confidence rarely shows up first. Action does. You can’t think your way into self-belief—you have to move into it.
  3. Make friends with failure. Failure is just practice with dramatic lighting.
  4. Find new artists. Hang out (virtually or otherwise) with people who see your potential, not your past mistakes.

So yeah…

If your mind is tattooed with negativity, it doesn’t mean you’re doomed—it just means you’ve got some touch-up work to do. And honestly, that’s kind of the fun part. You get to choose what you ink over it with.

I’ve been adding new tattoos lately: “persistent,” “curious,” “weirdly optimistic.” And even on the days I don’t fully believe them, I leave them there. Because belief, like art, starts rough and gets better with layers.

So maybe Maxwell was right—if we let those negative tattoos define us, success will always be out of reach. But if we pick up the metaphorical needle ourselves? We can start designing something new.


Murder at the Savoy book cover

A murdered songbird. A haunted ballroom. A detective with secrets of his own.

When Evelyn Sinclair’s body is found backstage at the Savoy, everyone calls it an overdose. Everyone but Clara Beaumont.
She hires newcomer Lucien Knight, an English detective with a checkered past and a knack for finding trouble.
From Harlem’s jazz clubs to Manhattan’s shadowed alleys, Lucien hunts a killer—and faces the ghosts that followed him across the Atlantic.

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