LGBT Characters

The Rise of Openly Queer Protagonists

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There was a time—not too long ago, really—when queer characters in movies, books, or TV shows lived in the shadows. They weren’t openly queer; instead, we got hints, winks, lingering glances that never landed anywhere concrete. Subtext was the name of the game. And if you caught it, you caught it. If not, well…you probably just assumed they were “very close friends.”

I grew up watching those stories, picking up on the breadcrumbs, and thinking, Okay, that’s as good as it’s going to get. It was like an open secret between queer audiences and creators: we see you, but we can’t say it. And honestly, it stung. It told us our stories weren’t worth naming out loud.

Queer Coding and the “Secret Language” of Subtext

Remember those “best friends” in old sitcoms who seemed to spend all their time together, shared an apartment that somehow had only one bed, and were inexplicably uninterested in dating anyone else? Yeah. That was us. The writers couldn’t say it, so they painted around the edges. Queer audiences became experts at decoding subtle gestures and veiled references. It was survival storytelling—representation wrapped in plausible deniability.

The problem, of course, was that subtext always left room for erasure. Straight audiences could watch and never once think “queer,” while queer audiences had to work overtime to see themselves reflected. It was exhausting.

The Shift: From “Maybe” to “Hell Yes”

Fast forward to now, and things look different. We’ve gone from “don’t ask, don’t tell” characters to protagonists who proudly walk into the frame, fully themselves. Think of Simon in Love, Simon (and later Victor in Love, Victor), Charlie in Heartstopper, or even Theo in V.E. Schwab’s The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue. These are characters who don’t just exist on the margins—they carry the story.

This shift didn’t happen overnight. It’s the result of decades of activism, queer creators pushing through the noise, and audiences demanding better. It’s also thanks to smaller presses, indie filmmakers, and streaming platforms willing to take risks where big studios once balked.

And here’s the thing: having queer protagonists at the center changes everything. It means we no longer have to squint at coded dialogue or hang our hopes on throwaway lines. We get characters who fall in love, make mistakes, save the world, or screw it up spectacularly—and their queerness is not hidden, but part of the joy.

Why This is Important

When I was a teenager, queer characters usually ended up dead, lonely, or punished by the narrative gods. The infamous “bury your gays” trope was everywhere, and happy endings were rare. So when I watch a show like Heartstopper, where queer kids get to blush, hold hands, and navigate first loves without being shamed, I can’t help but feel a little emotional. This is what we needed decades ago. This is what kids today get to have.

Representation isn’t just about seeing someone who looks or loves like you. It’s about expanding what’s possible. It whispers to young queer folks: “Your story matters. You can be the hero. You get a future.” That’s powerful.

But Let’s Not Pretend the Work Is Done

Of course, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows just yet. For every Our Flag Means Death or Red, White & Royal Blue, there are still industries and countries where queer stories are censored, banned, or scrubbed of identity. Even in supposedly progressive spaces, queer protagonists can still be treated as a “risk” or “niche.”

And let’s not forget that representation often skews toward certain kinds of queerness: cis, white, gay men. We need more trans protagonists, more queer characters of color, more disabled queer heroes, more asexual and aromantic representation. Basically, the rainbow still has some shades missing.

From Here On Out

Still, I celebrate how far we’ve come. When I curl up with a queer romance novel or binge-watch a series where two girls kiss in broad daylight without fear, I feel that seismic cultural shift. Subtext has its place—it was survival—but we’ve moved into an era where queer characters don’t just exist. They thrive. They lead. They inspire.

And that’s something worth shouting about.

So here’s to more queer protagonists, more open stories, and more futures where kids don’t have to squint for representation. They’ll see it, front and center, where it belongs.

Want to Read/Watch Some Fantastic Examples?

If you’re looking for stories where queer characters take the spotlight, here are a few favorites:

  • 📚 Heartstopper by Alice Oseman – A tender, joyful series about queer teens navigating love, friendship, and identity.
  • 📚 Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston – A rom-com about the First Son of the U.S. falling for a British prince. Pure delight.
  • 📚 Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas – A groundbreaking YA novel featuring a trans Latinx protagonist who accidentally summons the wrong ghost.
  • 📚 Felix Ever After by Kacen Callender – A heartfelt, affirming story about identity, self-discovery, and love.
  • 🎬 Love, Simon (2018) – The teen rom-com that broke ground in mainstream film, later spawning the series Love, Victor.
  • 🎬 Our Flag Means Death (2022–23) – A swashbuckling comedy where queer pirates (yes, pirates!) get their happily-ever-afters.
  • 🎬 Portrait of a Lady on Fire (2019) – A gorgeously shot historical romance between two women in 18th-century France.

🌈 What about you—do you remember the first openly queer protagonist you encountered in media? How did it change things for you?


 


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Book Recs for Every LGBTQ Mood: From Cozy to Catastrophic

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I don’t know about you, but I totally pick books based on mood. Some days I want pure serotonin in book form, other days I’m craving ghost-filled chaos, and sometimes I want to emotionally implode in the most dramatic way possible. So, I figured: why not make a handy little queer book guide sorted by mood?

Think of this as a rainbow spectrum—cozy on one side, catastrophic on the other—with plenty of pit stops in between.

When You Want Cozy, Wholesome Vibes 🌈

These are your serotonin boosters. Nothing tragic, nothing soul-crushing—just pure comfort.

  • “The House in the Cerulean Sea” by TJ Klune – Bureaucrat meets magical misfits, learns to open his heart. Uplifting and gentle.
  • “Loveless” by Alice Oseman – Tender exploration of asexuality, friendship, and found family.
  • “Tea Dragon Society” by Kay O’Neill – Graphic novel with tiny dragons that grow tea leaves. Yes, it’s as wholesome as it sounds.

When You Want Fun, Flirty Rom-Coms 💕🎉

Sometimes you just need banter, chaos, and a guaranteed happy ending.

  • “Boyfriend Material” by Alexis Hall – Fake dating done right, with banter so sharp it could cut glass.
  • “Delilah Green Doesn’t Care” by Ashley Herring Blake – Chaotic bisexual photographer + small-town sapphic romance = absolute joy.
  • “She Gets the Girl” by Rachael Lippincott & Alyson Derrick – YA rom-com with opposites attract vibes.

When You Want Fantasy & Queer Epics ⚔️🐉

Swords, spells, and more representation than your average D&D campaign.

  • “Blackwater Sister” by Zen Cho – Malaysian spirits, family drama, and one very reluctant lesbian protagonist.
  • “The Priory of the Orange Tree” by Samantha Shannon – Dragons + sapphic queens + 800 pages of worldbuilding glory.
  • “Crier’s War” by Nina Varela – Sapphic slow-burn romance in a world of human/AI tension.

When You Want a Mystery or a Little Spookiness 🔎👻

Not horror-horror, but just enough eerie vibes to make you double-check your locks at night.

  • “Cemetery Boys” by Aiden Thomas – Summoning ghosts + trans rep + adorable romance.
  • “Plain Bad Heroines” by Emily M. Danforth – Cursed boarding school, queer actresses, dark academia deliciousness.
  • “The Verifiers” by Jane Pek – Queer detective investigating shady dating apps in NYC.

When You Want Messy, Angsty Drama 💔🔥

Think yearning, bad decisions, and the kind of angst that makes you want to throw the book across the room (lovingly).

  • “We Are the Ants” by Shaun David Hutchinson – Queer grief + possible alien abduction = chef’s ki— (oops, can’t say it). Let’s just say it’s gorgeous and devastating.
  • “Summer Sons” by Lee Mandelo – Southern gothic, drag racing, ghostly hauntings, and repressed desire.
  • “Exciting Times” by Naoise Dolan – Bisexual protagonist caught between messy love interests in Hong Kong.

When You Want Historical Queer Vibes 🕰️🌹

Queer people have always existed—these books remind us that history has more rainbows than the textbooks admit.

  • “The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue” by Mackenzi Lee – 18th-century romp across Europe, starring a bisexual disaster and his crush.
  • “Last Night at the Telegraph Club” by Malinda Lo – Sapphic romance in 1950s San Francisco, tender and beautifully researched.
  • “Maurice” by E.M. Forster – Written in 1914, unapologetically queer, and groundbreaking for its time.

When You Want Catastrophic Feels 🌪️😭

Here’s where you willingly dive into heartbreak city. I don’t make the rules.

  • “The Song of Achilles” by Madeline Miller – If you know, you know (this one wrecked me!).
  • “Giovanni’s Room” by James Baldwin – Beautiful, brutal, and gut-wrenching.
  • “A Little Life” by Hanya Yanagihara – A marathon of trauma and love. Enter at your own risk.

The Mood Map

  • Need comfort? → Klune, Oseman, O’Neill
  • Want swoony banter? → Hall, Blake, Lippincott
  • Fantasy cravings? → Cho, Shannon, Varela
  • Feeling spooky? → Thomas, Danforth, Pek
  • Angst appetite? → Hutchinson, Mandelo, Dolan
  • Historical feels? → Lee, Lo, Forster
  • Want emotional destruction? → Miller, Baldwin, Yanagihara

I’ve realized my own reading life is basically mood-swings on paper. Sometimes I want something as soft as a marshmallow, sometimes I want a haunted house with repressed homoerotic tension, and sometimes I just want to sob dramatically while whispering “why did I do this to myself?”

Your turn: what’s your go-to mood shelf? Got a catastrophic fave I missed? Drop it in the comments so I can add it to my ever-growing pile of emotional chaos.



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Top 10 LGBTQ+ Characters in Urban Fantasy

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You know how sometimes you read a book or binge a show and think, ah, finally—someone like me on the page/screen, but with more magic and better hair? That’s the sweet spot where urban fantasy meets queer representation. Urban fantasy has always been about worlds hidden in plain sight—magic tucked into city streets, vampires doing their laundry at 2 a.m., witches ordering espresso shots—and it’s honestly the perfect place for LGBTQ+ characters to thrive. We know what it’s like to live in the margins and still carve out space, so no surprise we keep popping up in these stories.

Here’s my totally subjective, absolutely biased, but deeply heartfelt list of ten LGBTQ+ characters in urban fantasy who’ve stuck with me.

1. Alec Lightwood (The Mortal Instruments by Cassandra Clare)

Alec was one of the first mainstream gay characters I saw in YA urban fantasy who actually got a love story. Not just tragic longing, but a real relationship—with Magnus Bane (more on him in a second). He’s awkward, stoic, and fights demons like it’s his side gig, all while navigating the terror of coming out in a conservative family of Shadowhunters.

2. Magnus Bane (The Mortal Instruments & The Bane Chronicles)

Look, Magnus deserves his own entry. He’s the bisexual High Warlock of Brooklyn, dresses like a glitter bomb exploded in the best way possible, and has lived for centuries, loving people across genders. He’s funny, powerful, and unapologetically himself. Honestly? He’s goals.

3. Nico di Angelo (Percy Jackson/Heroes of Olympus by Rick Riordan)

Okay, yes, this leans more “mythic fantasy in modern day” than strict urban fantasy, but I had to include Nico. He’s Hades’ son, broody as all get out, and had one of the most emotional coming-out arcs in YA fantasy. The way Rick Riordan handled his queerness—especially for a middle-grade audience—was groundbreaking.

4. Constantine (DC Comics / Constantine TV / Legends of Tomorrow)

The bisexual chain-smoking, trench-coat-wearing demonologist we didn’t know we needed. Constantine is messy, morally gray, and constantly caught between saving the world and sabotaging himself. I love that his bisexuality isn’t erased (at least not in recent depictions), because characters like him prove queerness doesn’t have to be sanitized to be valid.

5. Karrin Murphy (The Dresden Files by Jim Butcher—TV adaptation)

In the books, Murphy isn’t queer (which is a shame), but in the short-lived Dresden Files TV show, she was reimagined as a lesbian character. It added another dimension to her tough-as-nails cop persona. Honestly, we deserved way more seasons with her.

6. Wayhaught (Waverly Earp & Nicole Haught, Wynonna Earp)

Two for one! Waverly Earp (little sis to Wynonna) and Sheriff Nicole Haught gave us one of the sweetest, most enduring sapphic relationships on television. They fought demons, dealt with cursed revenants, and still managed to make time for romance in between dodging bullets. If you’ve never seen Wynonna Earp, add it to your watchlist right now.

7. Laf (short for Lafontaine, Carmilla)

Carmilla (the web series) was basically queer vampire chaos in a Canadian college dorm, and Laf—nonbinary, brainy, and endlessly loyal—was one of the standouts. Their friendship with Laura kept the story grounded, even when ancient vampires and eldritch horrors were showing up.

8. Diana Bishop (A Discovery of Witches TV adaptation)

Okay, here’s a sneaky one: in Deborah Harkness’s books, Diana is straight. But the A Discovery of Witches TV show gave us an amazing queer side character—Gillian Chamberlain—AND a world where queerness isn’t erased in the magical community. The adaptation embraced diversity way more, so I’m giving it a shoutout.

9. Talon (The Iron Widow author’s upcoming Heavenbreaker series teaser + nonbinary rep in similar UF spaces)

I’m cheating here because Iron Widow isn’t urban fantasy, but I’ve been following how more recent queer, nonbinary characters are being written into modern fantasy that straddles UF vibes. Characters like Talon are paving the way for bigger, bolder representation. (Also, if you want a canon enby vampire, check out The Beautiful series by Renée Ahdieh—Odette is chef’s kiss).

10. Mitchell Hundred (Ex Machina graphic novel—urban fantasy meets political drama)

Half superhero, half mayor of NYC, and bisexual. What I love is that Mitchell’s queerness isn’t the central conflict, but it’s part of his identity in a political world that’s not always welcoming. It’s gritty, weird, and perfectly urban fantasy in tone.

Why This List Matters

Urban fantasy has always been about outsiders, the unseen, the magical underbelly of the everyday. Queer folks fit right into that mix—we know how to spot hidden worlds, because we’ve had to live between them ourselves. Representation matters, not just because it’s nice to see a rainbow flag tucked into your favorite demon-slaying story, but because it normalizes queerness in every kind of narrative.

When a bisexual warlock can save the world in sequined pants, or a lesbian cop can take down revenants with a shotgun, or a gay son of Hades can finally admit who he loves—suddenly, the genre feels more like home.

Who’s missing from my list? (Because I know I’ve left out at least a dozen amazing queer characters.) Drop your faves in the comments—I’m always looking for my next queer urban fantasy obsession.


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Supernatural Coming Out Stories: Parallels Between Coming Out as Magical and Coming Out as Queer

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I’ve always thought it was kind of hilarious that so many supernatural stories feel like a metaphor for being queer, even when the author swears up and down that they “didn’t mean it that way.” Like—really? You wrote a whole book about a teenager hiding a secret from their family, terrified they’ll be rejected if the truth comes out, and you didn’t see the queer parallels? Uh-huh. Sure.

Whether it’s discovering you’re a vampire, a witch, a shifter, or some kid who can suddenly throw fireballs with their hands, the beats line up almost perfectly with queer coming-out narratives.

The First Time I Noticed It

I still remember when the lightbulb first went off for me. I was watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer as a teenager, and Buffy had that moment where she confessed to her mom about being the Slayer. Joyce’s response—“Have you tried not_being the Slayer?”—landed like a punch in the gut. I had _heard that exact tone before when a relative asked me if I could just “try harder” to like girls. And suddenly I realized: oh wow, these shows aren’t just about demons and fangs. They’re about us.

That realization stuck with me, and now every time I read or watch a supernatural story, I can’t unsee it.

The Discovery Phase

In queer life: You realize you like boys, or girls, or both, or maybe you don’t like anybody at all in that way—and suddenly you’re sitting with this knowledge like it’s a glowing orb in your chest. It feels huge and heavy, like if anyone notices you’ll be done for.

In magical life: You wake up one morning with glowing eyes or a suspicious bite mark, and suddenly you’re staring at yourself in the mirror whispering, What the hell am I?

Think of Teen Wolf (the MTV one). Scott wakes up with claws and freaky senses, and he doesn’t want anyone to know. His whole early arc is basically one big “don’t find out who I really am” panic. Swap the claws for a rainbow flag, and it’s the same vibe.

The Closet = The Secret Spellbook

Hiding your sexuality and hiding your powers both involve elaborate double lives. Queer kids might date someone they’re not into, hoping to look “normal.” The magical teen? They invent excuses for why they disappear during the full moon, or why the chemistry lab keeps mysteriously catching fire.

In Charmed, the Halliwell sisters spend entire seasons juggling “normal” jobs and relationships while secretly being witches. Closet vibes with sparkles and incantations.

And then there’s Harry Potter. The whole “You’re a wizard, Harry” moment reads almost like a coming-out conversation. You think you’re ordinary, but suddenly someone tells you, “Actually, you’re part of this whole hidden world.”

The Big Reveal

Coming out is terrifying because you don’t know the reaction. Will your family embrace you? Will they throw you out? Will your friends shrug and say “Cool” or quietly drift away?

Same for the supernatural reveal. Buffy nailed this, but X-Men has been the loudest metaphor megaphone for decades. Mutants literally have to “come out” with their abilities, and the whole “cure” storyline is basically conversion therapy in spandex.

Found Family

If your birth family doesn’t accept you, the queer community becomes your safe haven. You find your people. You belong.

Same deal in fantasy. In True Blood, Sookie discovers a whole hidden community of “others.” In The Magicians, Quentin and friends find a weird, wonderful tribe at Brakebills. That sense of “I thought I was alone, but I’m not” is universal—whether you’re queer, a werewolf, or a bisexual vampire with excellent taste in leather jackets (looking at you, Lestat).

Shame vs. Power

Here’s the kicker: what you’re taught to be ashamed of—the thing you hide, the thing you fear—is also your source of strength.

For queer folks, it’s living authentically and discovering joy in chosen love. For supernatural characters, it’s their magic, their fangs, their telepathy. The very thing that made them feel monstrous is what makes them extraordinary.

That’s why queer fans flock to these stories. They’re not just entertainment—they’re survival manuals disguised as fantasy.

Why These Stories Matter

This is why supernatural coming-out tales hit so hard. They let us rehearse our fears in a safe way. They give us metaphors that make sense of our lived experience. And they remind us that even if your story starts with fear, it doesn’t have to end there.

Whether you’re telling your mom you’re dating someone of the same gender, or confessing to your best friend that you’ve been secretly practicing necromancy—there’s always that heart-pounding moment before you speak. That leap into the unknown.

And on the other side of that leap? Sometimes rejection, yes. Sometimes heartbreak. But also—sometimes freedom.

So yeah, every time Storm raises an eyebrow in X-Men or Buffy pulls out her stake, I can’t help but grin and think: this is our story too.


Every kingdom has its enemies. For Tregaron, that enemy is Lord Vadok—a sorcerer with a taste for vengeance and a plan to topple King Jamros. But when the battle turns personal, Prince Norian discovers that the price of survival is far higher than he imagined. Cursed by a werewolf’s bite, he must learn to master the beast within before it destroys everything he loves. Grab your copy HERE

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A Love Letter to Queer Coming-of-Age Films

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I don’t know about you, but the first time I saw a queer character on screen who actually felt like me, it was like someone cracked open a secret door I didn’t know existed. For me, that moment was watching Beautiful Thing on a scratchy VHS tape I’d rented from the one indie video store in town that dared to have a “Gay/Lesbian” section hidden behind the foreign films. I must’ve been fifteen or sixteen, sitting cross-legged on the carpet, lights off, terrified my mom might walk in, and there it was: two awkward boys, figuring out who they were, falling in love without the world immediately ending. I swear I held my breath for the entire runtime.

The First Time Films Saw Me Back

Queer coming-of-age movies are like time capsules for emotions. They’re messy, tender, sometimes tragic, sometimes giddy, but always—always—honest. Watching Moonlight for the first time, I felt this ache in my chest that didn’t quite go away for days. That moment on the beach? You know the one. It felt like the kind of intimacy we were never supposed to see on screen, but there it was—quiet, vulnerable, devastatingly beautiful.

Then there’s Love, Simon, which I’ll admit I went into with a bit of side-eye because I thought it might be too glossy, too safe. But honestly? I cried. Like full-on ugly cried. Because here was a mainstream teen rom-com, backed by a major studio, letting a gay kid have the Ferris wheel kiss he deserved. Fifteen-year-old me would’ve killed for that movie. Instead, I had American Pie and an endless parade of “token gay best friends” played for laughs.

And let’s not forget Call Me by Your Name. The Italian sunlight, the peaches (yes, those peaches), the ache of first love wrapped in art and languid summer days. That final shot of Timothée Chalamet crying by the fireplace might be one of the most accurate depictions of heartbreak I’ve ever seen on screen.

The Messy Middle Ground

Not every queer coming-of-age film is soft-focus and affirming. Some are chaotic and raw, and that’s part of why I love them. Pariah absolutely gutted me in the best possible way. It’s about identity, family, and the jagged edges of growing up when your truth doesn’t match the script your parents wrote for you.

Or take The Miseducation of Cameron Post. It’s not an easy watch—conversion therapy never is—but there’s something incredibly defiant about the way it balances trauma with friendship and resilience.

Blue is the Warmest Color might be divisive (and rightfully criticized for how it was made), but for a lot of folks, it cracked open conversations about queer first loves and obsession. Similarly, Tomboy—about a French child navigating gender identity—hit me with such gentle honesty. Céline Sciamma has a gift for capturing adolescence in all its messy, questioning glory (Water Lilies deserves a nod here too).

Mysterious Skin is another one that doesn’t flinch. It’s haunting, painful, and deeply unsettling, but it tackles trauma in a way that feels brutally honest. Same goes for God’s Own Country, which somehow manages to mix heartbreak, mud, tenderness, and hope all in one windswept Yorkshire farm setting.

And Maurice—based on E.M. Forster’s novel—remains one of the most quietly radical queer love stories ever put to film.

The Quirky Comforts

Sometimes, though, I want my queer teen stories to be weird and a little awkward—because, let’s be real, being a teenager is weird and awkwardEdge of Seventeen (the 1998 one, not the Hailee Steinfeld one) was another VHS discovery for me, and it remains one of my favorites.

Then there’s But I’m a Cheerleader—camp, satire, bubblegum-pink absurdity—and yet, underneath all the silliness, it nails the reality of compulsory heterosexuality and how ridiculous (and damaging) those expectations are.

Other films in this camp? Geography ClubGBFAlex StrangeloveCrush, and the Brazilian gem The Way He Looks, which is basically a warm hug of a film.

The Quiet Gems

Some films never make the mainstream but deserve love. North Sea Texas, a small Belgian film, is beautifully understated and tender. Summer of 85 (French, dramatic, seaside) captures teenage obsession and grief in a way that hit me harder than I expected.

Closet Monster—with its surreal touches (yes, that hamster voiced by Isabella Rossellini)—is one of the most inventive portrayals of queer fear and desire I’ve ever seen.

My Beautiful Laundrette (1985) deserves its flowers too—an interracial gay romance set against Thatcher-era tensions in London.

I also can’t not mention My Own Private Idaho. River Phoenix and Keanu Reeves wandering through street hustling, Shakespearean monologues, and desolate highways—messy, tragic, beautiful. Same goes for Beau Travail—queer desire wrapped in French Foreign Legion uniforms and hypnotic dance sequences.

And if we’re talking groundbreaking, Torch Song Trilogy and Milk both deserve special status. The first gave us Harvey Fierstein’s wry, biting, devastatingly human portrait of love and loss. The second (with Sean Penn as Harvey Milk) gave us a history lesson in activism that still inspires me to this day.

Why These Films Matter

The thing about queer coming-of-age films is that they don’t just tell stories—they give permission. They whisper, “You’re not the only one.” When I was a teenager, that whisper was everything. Today, I think about some kid in a small town scrolling through streaming platforms, stumbling onto HeartstopperAnything’s Possible, or Saturday Church, and feeling seen for the first time.

Even now, I still devour these movies. They remind me of all the versions of myself I’ve been: the scared kid hiding DVDs under my bed, the young adult finding courage in messy indie films, the grown-up who can finally laugh, cry, and cheer along without shame.

So yeah, this is my love letter to queer coming-of-age films. To the VHS tapes, the festival indies, the Netflix originals, the Milwaukee LGBT Film Festival (RIP), the hidden gems, and the big glossy rom-coms. You held my hand when no one else did. You cracked open doors I didn’t know I was allowed to walk through. And you still keep reminding me that queer joy, queer pain, queer first loves—they all matter, and they all deserve to be told.

Thanks for listening to me gush. Now tell me—what was your first queer coming-of-age film?


Queer Coming-of-Age Starter Pack (A Non-Comprehensive but Totally Loving List)

  • Beautiful Thing (1996)
  • Moonlight (2016)
  • Love, Simon (2018)
  • Call Me by Your Name (2017)
  • Pariah (2011)
  • The Miseducation of Cameron Post (2018)
  • Blue is the Warmest Color (2013)
  • Tomboy (2011)
  • Water Lilies (2007)
  • Mysterious Skin (2004)
  • God’s Own Country (2017)
  • Maurice (1987)
  • Edge of Seventeen (1998)
  • But I’m a Cheerleader (1999)
  • Geography Club (2013)
  • GBF (2013)
  • Alex Strangelove (2018)
  • Crush (2022)
  • The Way He Looks (2014)
  • North Sea Texas (2011)
  • Summer of 85 (2020)
  • Closet Monster (2015)
  • My Beautiful Laundrette (1985)
  • My Own Private Idaho (1991)
  • Beau Travail (1999)
  • Torch Song Trilogy (1988)
  • Milk (2008)

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Beyond the Gay Best Friend: Let’s Talk About Writing LGBTQ+ Side Characters Who Aren’t Just Sassy Props

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So here’s the thing—I’ve read a lot of books. Like, so many that I sometimes forget what day it is or whether I remembered to feed the cat (don’t worry, she’s extremely vocal about reminding me). And one thing I’ve noticed over the years is this weird little pattern in fiction: the token LGBTQ+ supporting character. You know the one. The sassy gay best friend who only exists to give fashion advice, drop a few one-liners, and then vanish when the main character starts making out with their love interest.

Yawn. We’ve been there. We’ve done that. And honestly? It’s time for a glow-up.

Let’s talk about how we can write queer supporting characters who are actually, you know, human beings with dreams, flaws, backstories, and weird quirks—just like the rest of the cast. Because spoiler alert: queer people don’t just exist to prop up the straight protagonist’s emotional arc.

Step One: Let Them Have a Life (Outside the Main Character)

Okay, I get it. Your story might revolve around a main character who’s doing something epic—saving the world, solving a murder, falling in love in a coffee shop where everyone somehow has perfect hair and emotional availability. That’s cool. But if your LGBTQ+ side character disappears when they’re not directly interacting with the protagonist, that’s a red flag.

Give them a job, a dog, an unhealthy attachment to Bake-Off reruns—whatever! Just give them something that makes them feel like they exist in the world, not just in the MC’s orbit.

Example? Let’s say you’ve got a lesbian bartender in your urban fantasy novel. Don’t just have her pouring drinks and giving sassy advice. Maybe she’s a witch who’s secretly building protective wards around the neighborhood. Maybe she writes cryptic poetry that she folds into napkins. Maybe she’s terrible at dating and keeps asking your main character for help crafting dating app messages. Give her a messy, vibrant, real life.

Step Two: Break the Mold

Look, I love a good drag queen character or a snarky twink with zero filter. Truly, I do. But sometimes the best thing you can do for queer rep is write the character who isn’t what the audience expects.

Your bisexual character doesn’t have to be “confused” or polyamorous. Your gay guy doesn’t need to love musicals. Your trans character doesn’t have to spend the whole story focused on transition-related stuff (unless you want to explore that—totally valid!). The point is, people are nuanced. Queer folks are not one-size-fits-all.

Example? In one of my favorite paranormal mysteries (no shame, it’s mine), I’ve got a queer supporting character who’s a grumpy mortician with a ridiculous crush on the mailman. He listens to Scandinavian death metal, collects antique taxidermy, and has absolutely no interest in “helping the main character find love.” And that’s okay. He’s his own weird, prickly, wonderful person.

Step Three: Let Them Mess Up

Here’s something that really bugs me: the flawless queer sidekick. Like, they’re morally perfect, always say the right thing, and somehow know how to solve every emotional problem with a snap and a martini. I know it comes from a good place—writers trying to be respectful—but it ends up flattening the character.

Let them be wrong. Let them get mad. Let them ghost someone, fall for the wrong person, or blow up at the protagonist because they’re stressed and haven’t slept in two days. That’s what makes them feel real. Real people mess up. That includes the queer ones.

Example? Remember Robin from Stranger Things? She’s a great supporting character—funny, sharp, kind of a disaster. She’s got layers. She doesn’t just exist to back up Steve. She gets her own weirdness, her own anxieties, and even a painfully awkward crush or two. That’s what I’m talking about.

Step Four: Not Everything Has to Be About Being Queer

Sometimes a queer side character’s biggest plot twist isn’t coming out or dealing with homophobia. Maybe they’re just trying to solve a supernatural murder mystery while dealing with their mom’s obsession with crocheted owls. Maybe their queerness is part of who they are—but not the only thing they are.

This doesn’t mean we should erase queer experiences—those stories matter—but sometimes it’s nice to just see a trans woman who’s also a badass werewolf hunter. Or a gay uncle who makes balloon animals and secretly works for the CIA. Give me chaos. Give me complexity. I want to feel like they could carry their own book.

So yeah…

So yeah, if you’re a writer—and I know some of you are—don’t settle for cardboard cutouts or queer plot accessories. Write characters who are weird and messy and fully alive. Let them be the funny one and the one who screws up. Let them have dreams, flaws, and nervous breakdowns over IKEA furniture. We need more of that.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got a grumpy demon to write and a queer necromancer who keeps refusing to follow the plot I gave them. Typical.

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What I’ve Learned from Writing Queer Characters Across Different Decades

 a good-looking gay male couple in the 1930s

(Or: Why Historical Queerness is Complicated, Beautiful, and Occasionally Messy as Hell)

When I started writing queer characters, I didn’t expect to become a part-time amateur historian, therapist, and decoder of unspoken longing. But that’s what happens when you plop queer folks into past decades and tell them to live, love, and maybe solve a murder or two without getting arrested or excommunicated.

Right now, I’m waist-deep in a detective noir series set in 1930s Chicago—think fedoras, gin joints, and a paranormal investigator who’s a little too good at noticing things (especially when it comes to handsome suspects). And before that, I wrote a time-travel novel with scenes set in 1860. Yeah. That 1860. Civil War-era, “homosexuality is a criminal offense in every state” 1860.

I’ve learned a lot from these queer journeys through time. About shame. About resilience. About how love finds ways to survive—even when the world keeps trying to erase it.

The Unspoken is Deafening

If you’ve ever read a historical novel where two men are just very good friends and happen to share a bed because it’s “more efficient,” you’ve probably side-eyed your way into Queer History 101.

In the 1860s, I couldn’t write a character openly saying “I’m gay” without breaking the narrative like a poorly placed anachronism. So instead, there were loaded glances. Letters with double meanings. Physical closeness that a modern reader understands but the characters themselves might not even have words for.

And let me tell you, writing those subtle emotional gymnastics? Weirdly exhausting. But also really rewarding. Because it reminds you just how hard people had to fight to understand themselves—let alone find someone else who did.

Queerness Isn’t New (But It Was Dangerous)

I used to think of queer history as this slow unfolding—like LGBTQ+ people didn’t exist until we gradually “appeared” in the 20th century. LOL. Nope. We’ve always been here. What changed was the language and the risk.

In 1930s Chicago, things were just barely starting to crack open in the underground scenes. Speakeasies had back rooms. Men danced with men—quietly. Women lived together and were “confirmed bachelors” or “Boston marriages.” It was all hidden in plain sight, like a magic trick nobody acknowledged.

Writing queer characters during this time meant leaning into that tension. My detective might be quick with a pistol, but he’s slow to trust when it comes to romance. There’s always this edge of fear and secrecy humming beneath the surface—like the wrong word to the wrong person could end more than just a relationship.

It’s Not All Tragedy (Promise)

I worried, at first, that writing historical queer characters would mean constantly flirting with doom. And yes, there’s pain. You can’t sugarcoat laws, persecution, and violence.

But there’s also joy. So much joy.

There’s coded love letters and whispered confessions in moonlit alleys. There’s finding the one person who sees you when the rest of the world insists you’re invisible. There’s loyalty. Found family. Unlikely alliances.

In the 1930s detective story I’m writing, my main character finds moments of connection in places he never expected. A bartender who looks the other way. A former lover turned informant. A kiss stolen in the dark while jazz spills from a phonograph. It’s a little noir, a little gothic, and 100% emotionally fraught (my favorite flavor).

You Can’t Ignore the Era

Here’s a lesson I learned the hard way: you can’t just drop modern queer people into a historical setting and call it a day. You have to let the setting shape them. They wouldn’t have had access to the same conversations, communities, or even concepts that we do now.

In 1860, there was no “coming out” as we know it. There was no Pride parade, no TikTok explaining the difference between demiromantic and gray-ace. People figured things out in isolation—or not at all.

And while that’s tragic, it’s also a space for rich character exploration. The internal battles. The slow dawning of realization. The accidental discovery of joy.

There’s Always Someone Watching

This one hits hard, especially in the 1930s noir world. Even when you’re not being chased by mobsters or ghouls (because, yes, I threw in a supernatural twist), there’s always the social eye. The ever-present judgment. The “what will the neighbors think?”

That pressure shaped how queer people moved through the world. So in my writing, I try to show how small acts—like touching a hand for a beat too long—could be monumental. Intimacy is magnified under the weight of fear.

And yet, people still loved each other anyway. Because of course they did.

The Takeaway (If I Had to Pick Just One)

Writing queer characters across time has taught me this: we’ve always been here, quietly defiant, stubbornly tender, surviving by candlelight until someone could finally flip the switch.

As a writer, it’s both an honor and a responsibility to bring those stories to life—flawed, complicated, passionate, and human. Always human.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have a ghost-infested speakeasy to write and a very grumpy 1930s detective who needs to admit he’s in love with the man helping him solve a murder.


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