Wordless Wednesday – Badlands

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I came across this book a while back and I thought it might be of interest to some readers as protecting ourselves online is a topic that many people are concerned about and one that I often discuss here on the blog.
The Art of Invisibility is a book that asks the following question:
What do you need to do to protect yourself both online and off, and keep your information safe and most of all, private?
This book is written by one of the world’s famous hackers, Kevin D. Mitnik whose extracurricular activities, shall we say, have landed him in some major hot water years back. He spent two and a half years as a fugitive from the FBI, wanted for hacking, unauthorized access, and wire fraud. Mr. Mitnik has now seen the error of his ways and these days, he’s moved on to legal, authorized hacking as a security consultant in which corporations pay him to hack into their systems to test their security.
Now, he works to teach people how to protect themselves and their companies in a world of malware, scammers, spammers, hackers, government abuse, keylogging software, microphones and cameras that are always on, and the tracking of our every move online.
Being a former hacker himself, he knows what information companies collect about us, the manner in which they gather that information, how they spy on us, and in this book, he shares that knowledge with us. Think of The Art of Invisibility as a how-to guide for avoiding hackers and other malicious activity both in your online life as well as when you’re offline.
If you’ve thought that you were relatively safe online, this book will shatter that illusion of security pretty darn quickly, as he goes through all of our devices, online services, and conveniences, explaining their vulnerabilities and how easily they can be exploited. Quite eye-opening!
The author covers a wealth of information based on his experience and past encounters with law enforcement. Some of the most interesting topics covered in this book have to do with:
Some of Mr. Mitnik’s recommendations are fairly basic, such as using strong passwords, using a password manager, and being careful to set up your home Wifi using the strongest and most recent security protocols.
He also stresses the importance of renaming your Wi-Fi router so as not to give away the make and model, which can allow for easier hackability. I actually did this one, not because of security reasons, but because I thought it’d be cool to name my Wi-Fi Router “Merlin” (yes, I’m a geek. Can’t help it).
Another thing that was really stressed in the book was how the use of public Wi-Fi it was not designed with online banking or e-commerce in mind, meaning that it is highly unsecure. The author advises that if you must perform financial transactions online when you’re away from home, you’re better off using your Cellular Data or your phone’s hotspot whenever possible.
What’s funny, is that I was already implementing a lot of these strategies because I was the victim of identity theft several years back. Someone was opening utility accounts under my name all over town. I had no idea this was happening until I started received past due notices from the phone company.
And boy, was that a mess to clean up! So since that happened, I’ve been extra diligent about protecting my identity and was pleased to see Mr. Mitnik recommend many of the same practices I was using.
Some of these are as follows:
So one of the big takeaways from The Art of Invisibility was that basically, there is no privacy anymore and we live in a society where practically everything we do is tracked, monitored, and stored, sometimes for years if not forever. But you CAN become less visible but depending on how far you want to go, it is not necessarily straightforward or easy — and most of the time not very convenient. To become truly invisible is more than challenging and takes an incredible amount of work.
So often when I’ve spoken about online privacy in the past to the people in my life, some have often responded by saying “I have nothing to hide, my life’s an open book.” This book, however, points out repeatedly that even if we’re not working on classified government secrets or are not on the lam as a criminal fugitive, we still may not want private-third parties or nefarious hackers snooping through our computer files or into our personal data, or as I like to call it: having strangers rifling through your knickers drawer.
And even then, there may be those times where you are might be in a dispute with your boss or with a coworker, going through a messy divorce, being sued by a neighbor or anything of that nature, and in these cases, you will want to make sure there are no traces of your searches left behind that could be used against you, even if you are an ordinary law-abiding citizen. It’s surprising what can be used against you in court: text messages, emails, Uber rides, even the purchase of a bottle of wine at the grocery store.
There were also a plethora of more advanced recommendations for people who need extreme online privacy, like at the Edward Snowden level. Some tactics include things such as using “burner” phones, paid for with cash and purchased for you by strangers, and using encryption tools to hide the data on our laptops.
There are so many fantastic recommendations in this book to get started, no matter what level of privacy and invisibility you want to achieve. What I found especially helpful, was that the author provides names of desktop and phone/tablet applications that can help us. He also tells us which online services to use (and which ones to avoid) and what to be aware of both in our online lives and our private lives.
It really is pretty easy to get started with all this but it does take vigilance and discipline.
I think that this is an important book that everyone should read because online security and privacy is something we all should be aware of and concerned about, and the strategies detailed in The Art of Invisibility provide the necessary guidance to get us started.

Do you have the tendency to think about something embarrassing that you said or did in the past, and once you do, feel embarrassed or ashamed all over again?
I’ve caught myself doing this more times than I can count. Thinking about something stupid that I did or said. The thing is, is that it’s not just a passing thought. But I will rehash it in my brain over and over again, feeling more embarrassed each time I think about it. I can be sitting outside enjoying nature, and the next thing I know, I’m cringing into myself deeper and deeper because of an embarrassing memory.
I heard somebody else talking about the same thing, and it was a pleasant realization to discover that I’m not the only one. Now, it’s not as bad for me as it used to be. When I catch myself doing this, I make a conscious effort to shrug it off and immediately change my train of thought.
Because really, there is absolutely no benefit in rehashing those cringe-worthy events. It does nothing but needlessly raise our anxiety level and cause us unnecessary stress. It’s like investing in a mausoleum- it will never pay off.
The key here is to recognize when we’re doing this and then make an effort to stop it. Then, we can remind ourselves that the only result of this train of thought is to punish ourselves over and over and over now, for something we did in the past — something long over with and done.
That’s not to say we shouldn’t attempt to right our wrongs, if possible. If we’re embarrassed or shamed about hurting someone, we should certainly try to make amends and repair the relationship, if possible. But most of the time, these events are long over and done with, and we have no control over them. It does us no good to relive them continuously in our heads.
Though it appears as though embarrassment and shame last forever, this does not have to be the case. So now I try to recognize when I’m doing this and gently remind myself that it does you no good to dwell on past mistakes. I’ve gotten much better at this, and it’s only rarely that I dredge up an embarrassing or inappropriate deed. But when I do, I chuckle to myself once I recognize what my devious mind is up to and quickly put those thoughts behind me.
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At the end of each quarter, I go through the list of books I’ve read over the past three months and compile a list of 5 of my favorites. This is the list of my favorite books that I read during the first quarter of the year (I’ll be sharing the second quarter list soon).
1. Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda LoThis is an amazing book that takes place in Chinatown in 1954 is about two women, Lily and Kath who fall in love with each other.” This is a dangerous time to fall in love with Red-Scare paranoia threatening their existence, especially Lilly who is Chinese American. So the story kind of revolves around The Telegraph Club, which is a Lesbian bar – a place where Lily and Kat hang out together, after sneaking out of the house. Well, a pivotal event occurs at the bar which changes and shakes up both of their lives. A moving story about discovering where you belong.
2. Dead Sea by Mia KerrickThe story follows Lenny, a seventeen-year-old talented creative kid who loves to sew and dress up in costumes. After an upsetting event during which all of his secrets risk exposure, Lenny, unable to face the potential humiliation, decides to walk into the ocean and never return. Caught in a riptide, he begins to drown but is rescued by the unlikeliest of heroes: one of the school’s biggest and meanest bullies, Kyle. What follows is a transformation of our two characters, especially of Kyle, after the event. Though the book is layered with complexities of identity and societal expectations, ultimately, Dead Sea ends being a beautifully written story about friendship, redemption, and first love.
3. The Echo Wife by Sarah GaileyI’ve read a couple of other books by this author: Magic for Liars and When We Were Magic and enjoyed both of them. But I’d say that this book is my favorite one of the three.
This book asks the question: How far would you go in the pursuit of perfection?
The story takes place in the not-so-distant future and follows a brilliant and driven award-winning scientist named Evelyn Caldwell whose work involves Clone technology, in which she is able to perfectly replicate human beings using their DNA. Unbeknownst to Evelyn, her husband Nathan has stolen her research and created a genetic clone of her…of Evelyn, named it Martine. The husband made Martine with only the qualities that HE wanted in a woman: more patient, loving, pliable, meek, even-tempered, more focused on him rather than her work, and especially more obedient. So, snake that he is, he leaves Evelyn, moves in with Martine to live life with his wife’s clone, and files for divorce. Things get really crazy when the cheating bastard ends up dead in Martine’s Kitchen and the two “Mrs. Caldwells” end up having to work together to fix the mess.
4. What You Never Knew by Jessica HamiltonThis is a haunting story told from the point of view of two sisters, one dead and one alive. After the death of her mother and of sister May, June finds out that she is now the owner of Avril Island, a place she hasn’t been to since her father’s sudden disappearance when they were children. Her mother told her that she’d sold the island years ago, so June was more than surprised that it was still in the family and now belonged to her.
Unaware that her dead sister’s ghost accompanies her, June returns to the isolated family island cottage for the first time in decades to find out why her mother lied to her about selling the cabin and perhaps why their father left them one night, never to be heard from again. She begins digging through decades worth of clues and uncovering all sorts of creepy family secrets in the process. What we have here is a wonderfully crafted and thrilling tale about loss, grief, love, lies, betrayal, and dark family secrets that I absolutely loved.
5. When the Stars Go Dark by Paula McLainI read The Paris Wife by this author, which I loved, so I thought I’d give this one a go as well. Set in the early 1990s, “When the Stars Go Dark” follows Anna Hart, an emotionally damaged detective specializing in searching for and finding missing children. After a horrendous tragedy in her life, Anna escapes to her hometown of Mendocino to try and figure out her next move and find herself. Once there, however, she’s asked by an old friend who is now the Sheriff to assist in the case of a missing 15-year-old girl named Cameron. Alternating between the past and present, Anna not only uncovers similar disappearances in other nearby towns but also unearths information about a missing child case that occurred while she lived in Mendocino years ago. This is a gritty and gripping mystery with many unexpected twists and turns that illustrates the extent of how trauma can affect someone’s life. Because of its dark subject matter — the kidnapping, abuse, and murder of children — the book is heartbreaking and tough to read. I knew this subject will be a gut puncher- but was woefully ill-prepared for how much. It kinda destroyed me for a few days, truth be told.
My 2nd quarter list will be forthcoming. How about you? Read anything good lately?
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Welcome to my Weekly Roundup where each Saturday, I post links to things I shared on social media throughout the week that I thought were interesting. I’ll also include book news, cover reveals, and more goodies.
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So on to the roundup.
Oh, and in case you missed it: 21 new books to keep your summer reading going strong.
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What the eyes see, the heart desires
I came across this quote a while ago, and for some reason, it stuck in my memory and has resurfaced for me quite a few times. My brain reminded me of it when I was actively trying to curb my spending — book buying in particular. I’ve always had a weakness for purchasing books, but I noticed that I was buying way more books than I was reading. My groaning bookshelves can attest to that.
But each time I resolved to slow down, a few more would find their way into my house. It was then that I remembered the quote and thought about it. “From where am I learning about all of these books?” I asked myself. The answer was simple: from all of the bookish newsletters to which I was subscribed.
Every day (and I do mean every day), I receive several emails talking about all the new books that are coming out or “books we think you might enjoy.” I’d see a book that sounded interesting, and the next thing I knew, it was in my shopping cart.
Finally realizing that I’ll continue to buy books as long as I received these newsletters, I unsubscribed to most of them — and lo and behold, my book-buying pretty much came to a halt. Because really, there’s so much time I have available to read books.
What the eyes see, the heart desires.
I applied this concept to other areas of my life as well and unsubscribed from most marketing emails and newsletters. I’ve never been too keen anyway about constantly polluting my brain with marketing messages every day, and now I consciously try to limit the amount of advertising to which I’m exposed.
As a result, my spending these days has been drastically reduced, and really, I’m buying only essentials — and only a couple of books here and there (not boxes and boxes of them at a time as I did in the past only to sit on my bookshelves, unread). In addition, I never watch commercial television, so I’m not exposed to ads in that way. And in addition to getting rid of marketing emails, I also use ad blockers when browsing the web for my sanity’s sake.
The same goes for tech gadgets (my other weakness, next to books). I used to purchase all sorts of gizmos, chargers, SD cards, drives, etc., many of which I really didn’t need. Of course, getting rid of those marketing emails curbed my desire for them as well.
I think that for anyone trying to cut back on spending, the first step may be to drastically reduce or eliminate the marketing to which you’re exposed. It worked well for me.
If the eyes don’t see it, the heart can’t desire it.
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I just finished a book entitled “The Hidden Palace,” which is a sequel to The Golem and the Jinni by Helene Wecker. This was a book I read a while ago and loved so much that I would check every couple of months to see if the sequel was available.
But I’m not going to talk about the sequel today, but about the first book in this duology: The Golem and the Jinni. I’m not planning on doing a lot of book reviews here, but when there’s a book that I especially like and stands out for me, I want to share it with others.
In the Golem and the Jinni, we have a blend of Arab and Jewish mythology and folklore, resulting in a mesmerizing historical fantasy. The characters of the Golem and the Jinni in this story are some of the most unique that I’ve encountered.
Our story begins when a golem, a creature of Jewish folklore made of clay, is created using Kabbalistic magic by a former rabbi, now turned dark magician. Not yet awakened, she (it’s a female Golem) and her new master head from Poland to America to begin a new life. The plan was to awaken his Golem once they arrived in America, but the man could wait no longer. So he excitedly opens this Golem’s crate and awakens her. But she barely has a chance to get to know her master when he suddenly dies on the ship from a burst appendix.
Now masterless, confused and frightened, she finds herself in New York in 1899. Luckily, a local Rabbi recognizes her for what she is and offers to help her integrate into this strange new society. New for her, that is, as she’s only been alive for a couple of days. Given that he can’t simply refer to her as “The Golem,” the Rabbi names her “Chava.”
The second creature in our story, a Jinni, a creature of Arabic folklore who is given the name Ahmad, is perhaps more commonly known as a Djin or a Genie. The Jinni is a creature of fire and was born in the ancient Syrian Desert over a thousand years ago. He is released accidentally from a flask by a tinsmith. When the Jinni awakens, he notices that he wears an iron wrist-cuff which means only one thing: that he was trapped in the flask by a wizard and has been inside the flask for over a thousand years. The Jinni has no memory of the wizard nor how he came to be in the flask.
So the story follows both the Golem and the Jinni as they try to fit in with their immigrant neighbors while hiding who — or should I say what — they really are. It’s a beautiful tale of two creatures trying to fit into a world they don’t understand.
One night, they haphazardly meet by chance on the streets of New York, and an unlikely friendship develops between the two. But then a dreadful incident occurs involving both of them, and because of it, the two of them retreat into their own world and stop seeing each other. In this way, their relationship is not only interesting but also quite complex.
But things change when a powerful evil — the villain of our story – arrives in town, and we learn he is someone who is a link between the two of them. His arrival threatens both the Golem’s and the Jinni’s existence, bringing them back together once again out of necessity.
I thought it was fun how this ended up being the story of opposites, with the fiery, free-spirited, womanizing Jinni on the one hand and the stoic, overly cautious, almost prudish Golem whose sole purpose is to serve a master, on the other. And even their age is miles or should I say centuries apart, with the Golem being just days old and the Jinni well over a thousand years.
Speaking of the characters, I’d have to say that the meticulous character development is profound and pretty much ongoing throughout the entire novel, making reading this all the more fun.
Though she was only recently brought to life, I love how Chava possesses an all-too-human empathy toward others. On the day of her arrival in New York, she steals food to give to a hungry boy. She is definitely the more emotional of the two creatures and extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, as we see in her caring for her Coworker Anna. This might have something to do with the Golem’s ability to hear the thoughts and know the desires of the people around her.
The Jinni, on the other hand, is wilder, passionate, and much more rash than the Golem. He’s willing to explore his new world, whereas the Golem approaches it more hesitatingly, more cautiously.
But no matter what happens to them, we always need to remember that the Golem and the Jinni are two creatures tied to their natures, no matter how much they may wish to convince themselves otherwise.
In this way, the author brings her characters to rich life, letting all of them thrive in their complexity and near-humanness. However, I did find it especially interesting how whenever these two creatures got together, they always ended up deeply discussing the human condition, an interesting topic for two non-human creatures.
Another thing that really worked for me in this story was the exquisite world-building. It’s apparent that the author did an incredible amount of research for this novel – research into setting both turn-of-the-century life in New York as well as the Syrian Desert of old, research into culture, religion, into the different groups of people represented in the story, into cultural magic as well religious mysticism. The author does an expert job integrating these details into the story while never thrusting an information dump onto us, and at times, I felt as though I really were in another place and time. We also get a riveting look into both the Jewish and the Arabic immigrant subculture communities of the late 19th century.
This book is fabulous! It’s one of the most surprising and engrossing books I’ve read in a while, with plenty of action and drama to keep me interested in what happens next. It’s a wonderfully rich and fascinating story of mystical creatures, old magicians, and ancient cultures with a unique, well-developed plot that was all brought together into a marvelous conclusion. So in this way, it was both a plot-driven and a character-driven story.
But not only was it engaging, but it’s also a remarkable study of human nature and includes such themes as religion, diversity, duty, choice, desires, loneliness, free will and freedom, religious faith or the lack thereof, tradition, and loving our neighbors.
So if you’re in the market for a unique and compelling story and don’t mind a bit of “woo-woo,” this book might fit that bill.
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