Constant advertising is exhausting …or is it just me?

woman screaming at her phone

I don’t know about you, but I find constant advertising to be utterly exhausting (it’s especially horrible this time of year — arrrg!). Ads are invading every part of our lives. The other day, I went to pump gas, and an ad with full volume started playing on a little screen above the pumps. There are even ads now on the walls above urinals in restrooms. If we search for anything on the Internet, we’re subsequently bombarded with targeted ads for that item for weeks or even months to come. And don’t get me started on websites — many of them are unusable because of the amount of flashing ads and auto-play videos that pop up and clutter the screen.

Now I don’t mean for this to be a rant post, but this is something I’ve been thinking about more recently. What brought it to my attention was that I went to a website using a web browser other than Firefox (which I’ve heavily customized with a plethora of privacy plug-ins and ad blockers), and I was horrified by the experience. Within seconds, my computer came to a screeching halt due to numerous ad videos that began playing at once and multiple flashing pop-ups. It was silly, really.

There are also websites that more or less hijack your entire browser. These include modal ads that take up the whole screen, allowing you to do absolutely nothing until you hit the “Close” button (and it always takes a minimum of three tries for the Close button to actually close the ad). The worst are those redirect ads that take you to an entirely different site.

I know we live in a capitalistic society, and businesses need to advertise in order to sell their crap. I’m an entrepreneur myself. But from what I’ve read in forums, many people are exhausted from being advertised to every bloody second of the day. I’ve always believed that it cannot be good for one’s mental health to be continuously bombarded with ads.

I’ve taken several steps in my own life to minimize the number of ads/advertisements to which I’m exposed. For one, I only watch ad-free television. That is to say, my watching is limited to only streaming services that don’t deliver up ads during programs. This isn’t something new for me — I moved away from commercial television many years ago – over 40, truth be told. However, once ads started appearing every six minutes or so during shows, I decided I had had enough and never looked back. I got rid of commercial radio about the same time as well (there’s nothing worse than having someone shouting at you to buy their hemorrhoid ointment). And once magazines began displaying ads on every other page, I dumped them, too.

I also use several different ad blockers (such as Adblock Plus) for online browsing, which are really effective. Firefox, which is my web browser of choice, is highly customizable and offers several security features, including ads and pop-up blocking. I also use an ad blocker for the iOS version of Safari. Now, ad blockers aren’t always effective in blocking pop-ups, though — they still manage to sneak through. However, if I visit a site with pop-ups (i.e., newsletter pop-ups), I try to make sure never to ever go to that site again (I’ve saved scads of money by refusing to buy anything from a site with pop-ups).

There are also many iOS apps (mostly the free ones) that include ads within them that I won’t use. If I like an app, I’ll always purchase the “ad-free” premium version of it. If I don’t like it enough to buy it or if there’s isn’t an ad-free version, I won’t use it. Likewise, I subscribe to Hulu ad-free and YouTube Premium, which provide an ad-free experience. I don’t mind paying a bit of money not to be exposed to advertising.

Though it’s nearly impossible to escape ads entirely, you can take steps to minimize your exposure to them.

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My New Novella: Christmas Cookies That Sparkle

Christmas Cookies That Sparkle Cover

I’ve always enjoyed Christmas romance stories and they tend to fill up pretty much my entire December reading list, both books and films which is kind of odd given that I’m not a huge “Christmas person.” So this year, I decided to write a M/M Christmas romance myself. The two main characters for my story, Matthew and Rory, have been bouncing in my head for awhile until I finally brought them to the page in my latest story “Christmas Cookies That Sparkle.”

This is a Christmas 43,000 word novella that follows Matthew who, after being shunned by his parents after he comes out to them and having his heart broken by the boy he loved, runs away from home. After being estranged from his family for four years, they finally find him online and reconnect. They invite him back home for Christmas, which, after a bit of deliberation, he accepts. Though he’s willing to make amends with his parents, he has no intention of ever seeing Rory — the boy who broke his heart— again or will he ever forgive Rory for the hurtful things Rory said to him on the day he broke Matthew’s heart. However, the universe, along with Matthew’s meddling parents and a mysterious older woman who keeps popping up, have different plans for Rory and Matt.

Christmas Cookies That Sparkle is about first love, redemption, second chances and finding your Christmas miracle. I had so much fun writing this story and I’m excited that it’s finally out in the world. It’s funny — I’ve wanted to write a Christmas romance for several years now and have never gotten around to it so I’m so happy I pulled it off this year. I think I may make this a yearly occurrence.

You can buy Christmas Cookies That Sparkle on Amazon — and it’s free if you have Kindle Unlimited.

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Subscription Fatigue

Exhausted woman

I sat down a while ago and decided to take a good, hard look at all of my monthly subscriptions, especially the software ones. Over the years, I’ve added more and more of these types of subscriptions without really realizing how much I was paying out every month. So let’s just say that I was more than a bit shocked when I tallied it all up!

Some of my subscriptions include:
– Web hosting
– Cloud storage
– Shopify
– Learning Piano Apps (Piano Marvel and Playground Sessions)
– Virus and Malware protection
– Backup services
– Writing Tools (such as Grammarly, ProWritingAid)
– Streaming Services (Hulu, Netflix, HBO Max, Disney, Apple TV+)
– Retail services (Book of the Month Club, Dollar Shave Club, Audible, Kindle Unlimited, Amazon Prime, Costco Membership)

But most shocking of all was the number of software subscriptions that I’d amassed over the years. I hadn’t realized just how many of them I was continuously paying for. The ones that stood out were Ulysses, Todoist, 1Password, DayOne, Buffer, Microsoft 365, Adobe, and TextExpander, just to name a few of them.

Identifying all of them was only the first step. The next step involves elimination, and that’s what I plan on doing in the coming days. I’m going to seriously evaluate every one of these pesky monthly charges to see which ones I can remove and which ones I can replace with non-subscription alternatives. For instance, I own versions of Scrivener and IAWriter, both of which can replace Ulysses, a subscription text/markdown editor. I also own standalone image editing programs such as Affinity Photos and Pixelmator, which can probably replace Adobe Photoshop (although that would mean getting rid of Lightroom, which I’m not quite sure I’m ready to do yet).

I’ve already begun the culling process, and my wallet is already feeling way lighter. I eliminated a couple of monthly software subscriptions for apps that I rarely used. I’ve also moved all my cloud files to one service rather than multiple ones (not quite sure how I ended up with so many). As a result, I’m finding it much faster to find what I’m looking for (I could never remember on which cloud drive some files were located) as well as to manage.

Another decision I’ve made is regarding my entertainment streaming services. Do I really need to have access to six different streaming services simultaneously, especially given that I rarely watch TV? Yeah, that’s a huge, resounding no! So what I’ve decided to do is subscribe to only one or two at a time, during which I will watch any shows/movies that I want to see. Then, once I’m caught up, I’ll unsubscribe and subscribe to the next service with shows I want to see. This way, I’m only paying for what I’m using. I’ve already eliminated two of them — the rest are yearly subscriptions, which I’ll probably convert to monthly when they come due, and again, I’ll only subscribe to one at a time.

Of course, there are certain apps/services that I cannot or will not discontinue, especially those that are essential to my business, such as Web Hosting services and writing tool apps. I’m still undecided about Ulysses, my main short-form writing app. Though I have other apps that do the same thing, I always seem to come back to Ulysses. This is the app in which I do all my daily writing. Perhaps I’ll spend some time evaluating other writing apps to see if I can find a replacement that works for me. What bothers me most about many of these apps is that access to your files ends when your subscription terminates, and more and more, I’m finding that utterly unacceptable. So those will definitely be the first to go.

So yeah, subscription fatigue is real, and I’m happy I’m finally doing something about it. How about you? Have you attained subscription fatigue yet?

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A Blackout!

Two Candles

You may have noticed that the blog was a bit quiet this week. It’s not that I had a lazy spell and didn’t feel like posting. Rather, my power was out for nearly three days.

Earlier in the week, we had a hell of a thunderstorm accompanied by hail and gusts of up to 60 mph. I was in the middle of eating dinner when everything went dark. Now, this does occasionally happen, our power going out during a storm, but it’s usually back on within half an hour. Not this time. I waited and waited, but it didn’t come back on. So finally, using the flashlight app on my phone, I went to the basement in search of some candles.

I subsequently learned that close to 200,000 people were without power, mainly due to trees falling on power lines all over the city. The news headlines informed us that it could take several days for cleanup to be achieved and power to be restored. Great.

This is the first time since I’ve lived here that we’ve had to go without power. It certainly was interesting, to say the least. For one, my ability to work was limited. I didn’t have my computer to work on, but I was able to get some basic stuff done on my iPad. Of course, the problem here was that I’d eventually need to charge the iPad and my phone. A few years back, I purchased a couple of portable charging bricks, mainly so I could charge my phone if I was on the go (such as on a photo safari) and not have to worry about the availability of AC outlets. Truth be told, I’ve only used them a few times over the years, mainly during weekend camping trips. But they sure came in handy this week! Using them, I was able to charge my phone and iPad a couple of times, so I wasn’t completely cut off from the world.

Living through this power outage made me realize how utterly dependent on electricity I am. Given that cooking was out, I had to try and find a restaurant that was open where I could pick up some takeout. I also managed to pick up some groceries for “cold meals” such as sandwiches. I got some canned coffee as well (did you know that canned coffee has 210 calories?)

Anything I wanted to accomplish basically had to be done during the daylight hours because by evening, it was way too dark to see in the house. The candles helped somewhat but not nearly enough. There was also no dishwasher, no laundry, to charging my electric toothbrush. Hell, I couldn’t even play piano to pass the time because I own a digital piano that needs to be plugged in.

Speaking of killing time, there isn’t a whole lot one can do when your house is lit by only a couple of candles. It’s definitely too dark to read. Luckily, I could stream audiobooks on my phone, so I did that for a couple of hours each evening.

It’s also worth mentioning that this took place during which the outside temperature hit about 95 degrees Fahrenheit. So I ended up spending pretty much all my time outside on my deck as it was way too warm in the house. I didn’t mind, though, as my deck is shaded by a giant oak tree next to the house, so it was reasonably comfortable. I also happen to be a person who doesn’t mind the heat (it’s the cold I can’t stand), but I imagine the heat would have been challenging for some people.

By the end of the third day, my charging bricks were nearly dead, so I would have to find somewhere to charge my devices the next day. Luckily, it didn’t come to that because at 4:30 in the morning on the 4th day, the power came back on. Whew!

Those few dark days certainly proved to be an adventure. Funny — the possibility that the power would go out for several days never occurred to me. If it happens again, I need to be a little more prepared than I was this time. I decided I’m going to try and find a battery-powered lantern of some kind that’ll give off more light than a few candles, something I’ll be able to read by. I may also pick up another charging brick or two, so I don’t have to worry about charging my phone & iPad; this way, I can still work. I’m also going to dig out my old propane-powered camping stove and keep it handy, so I’ll at least be able to cook and make coffee. Keeping some canned food around probably wouldn’t be a bad idea either. These are all things that we don’t think about until we need to. A little preparedness can go a long way when it’s necessary.

How about you? How ready are you for an extended blackout?

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Weekly Roundup – August 14, 2021

Weekly Roundup

Welcome to my Weekly Roundup where each Saturday, I post links to things I shared on social media throughout the week that I thought were interesting. I’ll also include book news, cover reveals, and more goodies.

By the way, I also send out this weekly round-up list each week to my newsletter. So if you wish to receive my weekly roundup in your email inbox each week, you can subscribe HERE.

You may noticed that the blog’s been a bit quiet this week. That’s because we had a power outage that lasted several days. I’ll post about it on Sunday.

So on to the roundup.

15 Things I Thought Were Worth Sharing

  1. I actually love middle grade stories: Why Adults Should Read Middle Grade Books
  2. I’m guessing we forget there’s actual people behind the text: “Do we see others online as human?”
  3. Are you bored? That’s good! How Boredom Can Spark Creative Ideas
  4. Privacy Watch: Q&A: A guide to ‘spyware’
  5. Just for fun: College Admission Officers Share What Made Them Reject Would-Be Students (30 Stories)
  6. Some of these are soooo funny! “This Twitter Account Shares “Things That Are Technically True”, And Here Are 54 Of The Funniest Ones”
  7. For those insomniacs among us: 9 Tips For Achieving Better Sleep
  8. This is kinda fun: “Here’s What Famous Historical Figures Would Look Like Today (24 New Pics)”
  9. The Uncomfortable Rise of the Instagram Novel
  10. LGBTQ+ Photographers Redefining Wedding Ceremonies
  11. ‘Swan Song’ is a ‘love letter’ to disappearing gay culture, director says
  12. I love this person’s art: This Artist Creates Weirdly Cozy Illustrations Filled With Fantasy And Monsters (110 Pics)
  13. Time for housecleaning: 8 Reasons To De-Clutter Your Facebook Friends
  14. I love this kind of stuff. There’s A Group Dedicated To Sharing “You Had One Job” Fails. Here Are 64 Of The Funniest Ones
  15. Ready to move about? Here are 6 Ways to Be More Active (No Gym Required)

Oh, and in case you missed it: Article: Animals Are Getting Smaller as the Planet Warms

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A Chat about Under the Whispering Door by TJ Klune

Under the Whispering Door book coverThe first time you share tea, you are a stranger. The second time you share tea, you are an honored guest. And the third time you share tea, you become family.

I like to share with you books that I’ve especially enjoyed, and I recently read one that fits into that category: “Under the Whispering Door” by TJ Klune. TJ Klune, who almost always features gay protagonists in his novels, is one of my favorite authors, so I was super excited when this book came to my attention. Once again, he did not disappoint.

Under the Whispering Door is an otherworldly, heartwarming contemporary fantasy about finding yourself. It follows an unlikable, ruthless and driven lawyer named Wallace Price, who is more than a bit dismayed to find himself at his own funeral. Apparently, Wallace has died, and he is none too happy about it. His suspicions are confirmed when a reaper named Mei shows up to take Wallace to the next stage of his journey.

But instead of taking him to the afterlife, the Reaper brings him to a small tea shop in a remote village called Charon’s Crossing, where he meets a charming man named Hugo, the proprietor, who also happens to be the “Ferryman of Souls.” Hugo’s job is to help souls get ready for crossing over, which turns out not to be such an easy chore for the angry and bitter Wallace Price.

But, of course, anger and denial like Wallace’s isn’t anything new for Hugo — he’s seen it all before. But — he definitely has his work cut out for him as he attempts to lead Wallace out of the darkness and into a more gentle understanding of the mysteries of life.

So with Hugo’s gentle guidance — as well as that from Mei (the Reaper) and Hugo’s ghostly and mischievous grandad Nelson, Wallace begins to understand all that he missed from life, and his outlook slowly begins to change — especially once he learns that it’s never too late to start anew.

It was so delightful to see Wallace’s heart begin to warm as the other charming and quirky characters slowly got under his skin. I loved seeing him grow as a person, and as he did, the more likable and relatable he became. I was stunned by how much I grew to actually care about this formerly cruel and despicable character. My heart warmed to see him begin to form meaningful relationships (for the first time in his life) with the other characters in the book (including Apollo, the lovable ghost dog) and witness him making a genuine effort to become a better person.

The author deals with some pretty tough topics in the story, such as death, PTSD, suicide, and grief, all of which were handled compassionately and delicately. But additionally, the author’s familiar wit, humor, and charm shine through, resulting in a beautiful heartfelt story that is both moving and thought-provoking. While this is a hard-hitting story that’s at times sad and raw, it does teach some valuable lessons as the plot unfolds.

This is the kind of story that causes you to laugh out loud in some places and brings a tear to your eyes in others (at least, it did me), and I still find myself ruminating and contemplating it many days later. I love a good story about hope, redemption, and second chances, and that’s what we get here with this gentle tale. But, of course, I also love stories about the afterlife, so this one also ticked a box.

Now, I did read an advanced review copy of this book, so at the time of this post, the book has not yet been released. It is scheduled to be published on September 21 but is available now for preorder from online retailers.

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Weekly Roundup – August 7, 2021

Weekly Roundup

Welcome to my Weekly Roundup where each Saturday, I post links to things I shared on social media throughout the week that I thought were interesting. I’ll also include book news, cover reveals, and more goodies.

By the way, I also send out this weekly round-up list each week to my newsletter. So if you wish to receive my weekly roundup in your email inbox each week, you can subscribe HERE.

So on to the roundup.

15 Things I Thought Were Worth Sharing

  1. There’s a few nuggets here: 10 Regrets Too Many People Will Have in 10 Years
  2. Thoughtful article: Sell This Book! Corporate publishing wants to turn all readers into renters. We’re trying to stop them.
  3. Just for fun: 35 Of The Funniest Things That People Accidentally Overheard Their Coworkers Say From Twitter’s #OverheardAtWork Trend
  4. Why can’t we sleep? How work schedules wreck our biological clocks.
  5. I could use a writer’s retreat right about now: The Benefits of a DIY Personal Writer’s Retreat
  6. Looking to improve your photography? Here are over 100 Photography Tips to Elevate your Photography
  7. How easy it really is to fall into the “perfect life” trap on Instagram
  8. The Productivity Gap – the disconnect between what we want (and sometimes need) to get done and what we actually can get done.
  9. Now you’ll be able to always identify those unknown birds: This App Identifies Birds by Their Songs
  10. Privacy Watch: A Slippery Slope? Apple Will Soon Snoop on Your Photos
  11. For something fun: ” From Harry Potter To Drag Superstar? Daniel Radcliffe Showcases His Drag Talents & Rump Shaking In The Newest ‘Miracle Workers’ Episode”
  12. Fantastic! I’ve always loved Mercedes Lackey’s books: LGBTQ-inclusive Valdemar fantasy universe is finally coming to television
  13. Not all fun is created equal: The Fun Scale: Understanding Types of “Fun”
  14. Explore what living the van life trend is like with an Australian photographer: Van Life in Australia with Photographer Charlie Blacker
  15. Netflix’s ‘Pray Away’ looks behind the curtain of the ‘ex-gay’ movement. Filmmaker Kristine Stolakis said she was driven to explore the controversial movement after the sudden death of her uncle, a conversion therapy survivor.

Oh, and in case you missed it: Imagine my surprise! “Facebook Bans Vaccine Hoax Researchers, Blames FTC”

From the Blog

  1. On Resentment
  2. Why I Flip-Flop between These Three Music Services
  3. Misowhat?
  4. Wordless Wednesday: What I Hate Seeing in the Water When Swimming
  5. A Chat about “A Star is Born”
  6. Streaming Movies (or not)
  7. Last Week’s Weekly Roundup

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