A Chat about Under the Whispering Door by TJ Klune

Under the Whispering Door book coverThe first time you share tea, you are a stranger. The second time you share tea, you are an honored guest. And the third time you share tea, you become family.

I like to share with you books that I’ve especially enjoyed, and I recently read one that fits into that category: “Under the Whispering Door” by TJ Klune. TJ Klune, who almost always features gay protagonists in his novels, is one of my favorite authors, so I was super excited when this book came to my attention. Once again, he did not disappoint.

Under the Whispering Door is an otherworldly, heartwarming contemporary fantasy about finding yourself. It follows an unlikable, ruthless and driven lawyer named Wallace Price, who is more than a bit dismayed to find himself at his own funeral. Apparently, Wallace has died, and he is none too happy about it. His suspicions are confirmed when a reaper named Mei shows up to take Wallace to the next stage of his journey.

But instead of taking him to the afterlife, the Reaper brings him to a small tea shop in a remote village called Charon’s Crossing, where he meets a charming man named Hugo, the proprietor, who also happens to be the “Ferryman of Souls.” Hugo’s job is to help souls get ready for crossing over, which turns out not to be such an easy chore for the angry and bitter Wallace Price.

But, of course, anger and denial like Wallace’s isn’t anything new for Hugo — he’s seen it all before. But — he definitely has his work cut out for him as he attempts to lead Wallace out of the darkness and into a more gentle understanding of the mysteries of life.

So with Hugo’s gentle guidance — as well as that from Mei (the Reaper) and Hugo’s ghostly and mischievous grandad Nelson, Wallace begins to understand all that he missed from life, and his outlook slowly begins to change — especially once he learns that it’s never too late to start anew.

It was so delightful to see Wallace’s heart begin to warm as the other charming and quirky characters slowly got under his skin. I loved seeing him grow as a person, and as he did, the more likable and relatable he became. I was stunned by how much I grew to actually care about this formerly cruel and despicable character. My heart warmed to see him begin to form meaningful relationships (for the first time in his life) with the other characters in the book (including Apollo, the lovable ghost dog) and witness him making a genuine effort to become a better person.

The author deals with some pretty tough topics in the story, such as death, PTSD, suicide, and grief, all of which were handled compassionately and delicately. But additionally, the author’s familiar wit, humor, and charm shine through, resulting in a beautiful heartfelt story that is both moving and thought-provoking. While this is a hard-hitting story that’s at times sad and raw, it does teach some valuable lessons as the plot unfolds.

This is the kind of story that causes you to laugh out loud in some places and brings a tear to your eyes in others (at least, it did me), and I still find myself ruminating and contemplating it many days later. I love a good story about hope, redemption, and second chances, and that’s what we get here with this gentle tale. But, of course, I also love stories about the afterlife, so this one also ticked a box.

Now, I did read an advanced review copy of this book, so at the time of this post, the book has not yet been released. It is scheduled to be published on September 21 but is available now for preorder from online retailers.

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Weekly Roundup – August 7, 2021

Weekly Roundup

Welcome to my Weekly Roundup where each Saturday, I post links to things I shared on social media throughout the week that I thought were interesting. I’ll also include book news, cover reveals, and more goodies.

By the way, I also send out this weekly round-up list each week to my newsletter. So if you wish to receive my weekly roundup in your email inbox each week, you can subscribe HERE.

So on to the roundup.

15 Things I Thought Were Worth Sharing

  1. There’s a few nuggets here: 10 Regrets Too Many People Will Have in 10 Years
  2. Thoughtful article: Sell This Book! Corporate publishing wants to turn all readers into renters. We’re trying to stop them.
  3. Just for fun: 35 Of The Funniest Things That People Accidentally Overheard Their Coworkers Say From Twitter’s #OverheardAtWork Trend
  4. Why can’t we sleep? How work schedules wreck our biological clocks.
  5. I could use a writer’s retreat right about now: The Benefits of a DIY Personal Writer’s Retreat
  6. Looking to improve your photography? Here are over 100 Photography Tips to Elevate your Photography
  7. How easy it really is to fall into the “perfect life” trap on Instagram
  8. The Productivity Gap – the disconnect between what we want (and sometimes need) to get done and what we actually can get done.
  9. Now you’ll be able to always identify those unknown birds: This App Identifies Birds by Their Songs
  10. Privacy Watch: A Slippery Slope? Apple Will Soon Snoop on Your Photos
  11. For something fun: ” From Harry Potter To Drag Superstar? Daniel Radcliffe Showcases His Drag Talents & Rump Shaking In The Newest ‘Miracle Workers’ Episode”
  12. Fantastic! I’ve always loved Mercedes Lackey’s books: LGBTQ-inclusive Valdemar fantasy universe is finally coming to television
  13. Not all fun is created equal: The Fun Scale: Understanding Types of “Fun”
  14. Explore what living the van life trend is like with an Australian photographer: Van Life in Australia with Photographer Charlie Blacker
  15. Netflix’s ‘Pray Away’ looks behind the curtain of the ‘ex-gay’ movement. Filmmaker Kristine Stolakis said she was driven to explore the controversial movement after the sudden death of her uncle, a conversion therapy survivor.

Oh, and in case you missed it: Imagine my surprise! “Facebook Bans Vaccine Hoax Researchers, Blames FTC”

From the Blog

  1. On Resentment
  2. Why I Flip-Flop between These Three Music Services
  3. Misowhat?
  4. Wordless Wednesday: What I Hate Seeing in the Water When Swimming
  5. A Chat about “A Star is Born”
  6. Streaming Movies (or not)
  7. Last Week’s Weekly Roundup

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Streaming Movies (or not)

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I’m kind of a meticulous list-maker — or should I say, activity tracker. I keep lists for all sorts of stuff: the book I’ve read, the movies I’ve seen, the beers I’ve tried, places I want to visit, etc. But when I opened my list book (Bullet Journal) the other day, I was kind of surprised by what I found — or should I say, what I didn’t find.

In a previous blog post, I mentioned that I recently streamed the film “A Star is Born.” So when I went to make the entry into my “Movies I’ve Seen” list, I was surprised to note that there were only three other entries for this year: In the Heights, Hamilton, and Zack Snyder’s Justice League. I thought, “This doesn’t seem right — there must be some I’d forgotten to written down.” So I racked and racked my brain and eventually had to come to the conclusion that yes, I’d only seen three movies this entire year.

This is super unusual for me as by midsummer, I typically would have seen between 20-40 movies. I mentioned previously that I used to go to the movies every weekend (sometimes more) to see an opening film, so that would have been probably around 30 movies alone. But when the pandemic hit, I told myself that I’d just stream movies from home rather than going to the cinema.

Yet strangely enough, I have not. It’s not like I don’t have access to movies, given that I subscribe to Netflix, Amazon Prime, Disney, AppleTV, and HBO Max. Although, now that I think about it, it’s kind of odd that I subscribe to so many services given that I don’t watch TV all that much (though my spouse watches much more than I do). I also subscribed for a year to a couple of them when they were running specials, which ended up costing me around $4 to $5 per month. Oh, I almost forgot about subscribing to Starz (via Amazon Prime), which I subscribe to only to see American Gods (I’m a huge Neil Gaiman fan here!).

It’s also not like I don’t enjoy watching movies because, again, as I mentioned above, I used to see a movie every week, something I’ve done for years. However, I guess during the pandemic and lockdown, my interests have shifted to other things. I’m definitely reading more books than previously, and I started learning piano a while back, so I’m spending more time on that as well.

But after realizing that I’d only seen a couple of films this year, I’ve set a goal for myself to try to watch at least one, maybe two movies every week. I have a ton of films in my various watchlists that I want to see, so it’s not like there isn’t anything interesting that I want to watch. I guess viewing movies kind of just slipped my mind this past year as time somehow got away from me and old schedules drifted away. I’ve always considered myself a movie buff, but it appears as though I haven’t been living up to my reputation.

So we’ll see how my new movie viewing resolution goes. I’ll share my experiences with you on this blog as a way of keeping myself accountable. If I continue not to watch movies, I’ll have to reconsider some of my streaming subscriptions when they come due — though, to be fair, I do have a couple of television shows that I watch. I’m just not sure if it’s enough to justify all those streaming services.

How about you? See any good movies lately?

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A chat about A Star is Born

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Last night, I sat down and streamed the film “A Star is Born,” the 2018 version starring Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga. I, unfortunately, missed it when it was at the movie theaters, and I’ve been meaning to watch it for quite some time. I really enjoyed it (for those of you who are wondering), but then again, I’m a fan of both Gaga and Cooper, and in this movie, the chemistry between the two of them was captivating. I thought they did a phenomenal acting job, and I adored the music. Actually, this won an Oscar for Best Achievement in Music for Motion Pictures and won a Golden Globe award (Best Original Song – Motion Picture) for the song “Shallow.”

I was also happy to see that the director didn’t simply rehash the previous versions of the film but created something modern, unique, and compelling here. Though they stayed true to the original story, the changes made were worth the retelling and what we end up with is a mesmerizing (and at times, painful) love story about stardom, addiction, love, and tragedy that’s both relatable and fresh. Additionally, I felt that the pacing was perfect — there were no lulls or boring bits at all (in my opinion), and the two-plus hours flew by.

I also have a soft spot for this movie because when I was sixteen, I saw the prior version in the theaters when it was released in 1976. That one starred Barbara Streisand and Chris Kristofferson in the leading roles. Truth be told, I loved this version so much, and it touched my heart to such an extent that I went to the cinema to see it at least six times (I was kind of a weird teenage boy in that Barbara Streisand was one of my favorite singers at the time).

Of course, this was when movie tickets weren’t $12 a pop. Now, it wasn’t all that unusual that I saw this numerous times because when I was a teen and up until my early 20s, I often would go to the movies to see a film that I liked six or seven (or more) times. These days, however, I usually only see a film once as there are so many available that I want to see.

However, these two versions were not the only ones of the film. The original film was released in 1937 and starred Janet Gaynor and Fredric March, and interestingly, Dorothy Parker wrote the screenplay. The film was then redone in 1954 and starred Judy Garland and James Mason. I haven’t seen either of them, but I would like to. I’ve always meant to at least see the Judy Garland version but never seemed to have gotten around to it. I’ve also heard it said that the 1937 version is absolutely brilliant, the best of all of them. So now I’m a tad tempted to see the other two and to compare all four versions.

Maybe that’ll be a fun project for winter.

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Misowhat?

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Quite a while ago, I was chatting with my physician. I don’t recall how to topic came up, but I mentioned that for some reason, the sound of lawnmowers sends me into a murderous rage.

“Oh, really?” He asked, raising his eyebrows. “Is there anything else that does this to you — any other sounds that bug you?”

I immediately told him that yes, I have the same reaction to leaf blowers (they are worse than lawnmowers!), weed-whackers, chain saws, and the loud, rhythmic backup beepers of industrial trucks. And for the life of me, I can’t understand why these sounds don’t seem to bother other people as they do me.

“Hmm…,” he said. “I can’t help but wonder if you have misophonia.”

“Misowhat?” I asked.

He then explained that Misophonia is a neurological disorder that is triggered by specific sounds (though some people can have visual misophonia). People who have it experience extreme adverse emotional reactions to these sounds. That is to say, people become enraged by them. Apparently, for some people, this includes sounds such as someone crunching or chewing food, whistling, sniffing, tapping a pencil on a desk, brushing their teeth, chewing gum, and more.

I then recalled an acquaintance of mine who cannot stand it when anyone eats crunchy food such as chips or nuts. It makes him crazy.

I asked my physician if there was any treatment, and he told me that options include behavioral therapy and antidepressants (I believe Prozac was mentioned). However, I wasn’t ready to pursue those avenues quite yet. He then suggested that I purchase some noise-canceling headphones as an alternative as these will block out most of those low-level sounds like leaf blowers and lawnmowers.

I took his advice and purchased a pair of Bose Quiet Comfort over-the-ear headphones. Boy, what a difference they make! Now, I always have a pair next to me at home while I’m working so that whenever anyone fires up one of those infernal devices, the headphones make the sound completely disappear — no more murderous rages for me.

I was not too fond of the idea of wearing the big cans outside while walking, though. So I purchased a pair of Apple Air Pods Pro, which are Bluetooth noise-canceling earbuds. They don’t work quite as well as the Bose headphones, but they do an okay job blocking out most of the annoying machine-generated outdoor sounds. At night, I have a white noise machine going to overpower the sound of those early-morning lawnmowers.

So if certain sounds make you crazy, know that you’re not alone. It may be a disorder that your doctor might be able to help with, especially if it’s affecting your social life. But to block out those low-level sounds, my headphones have become indispensable.

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Why I Flip-flop between Three Streaming Music Services

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For the past several years, I’ve gone back and forth between three premium music streaming services: Apple Music, Spotify, and YouTube Music (formerly Google Play Music). What’s funny is that I never tend to stick with one of them for longer than a few months. Of course, this is mostly just me being wish-washy (as I am with many things), but it also boils down to the fact that each of them has distinct features that I like — as well as those I don’t.

1. Apple Music

I’ve subbed and unsubbed many times to Apple Music. Given that I’m somewhat of an Apple fanboy, it makes sense for me to subscribe to their service since I’m well-entrenched into the Apple ecosystem. Apple Music works flawlessly with Siri and with their other devices.

But it usually doesn’t take me long to get sick of Apple Music constantly pushing Hip Hop and Rap music down my throat. Okay, well, maybe not down my throat. But whenever I listen to a recommended playlist, it’s rife with those two genres, neither of which I listen to nor enjoy. As for why Apple Music continues to recommend those to me, I have no idea. I have a music library with over 70,000 songs, and not one of them is Hip Hop or Rap. Now, I have nothing against these genres — hell, I have a friend who’s a Hip Hop musician. But those are just not music genres that I enjoy (I’m more of an easy listening and jazz guy). You’d think that after all these years, Apple would know my musical tastes. I kept hoping that eventually, Apple Music would learn my music tastes, but alas — I’m still waiting.

I’m also not a massive fan of their app, and I find that Apple Music on the Mac is still a nightmare. Their iOS app has gotten a bit better, but it’s still not a favorite of mine. It seems to be buggy, especially when adding music to the queue (which works only part of the time). And again, disliking songs seem to have no effect whatsoever on what’s the app recommends to me.

However, there are a lot of positives about the services. First, the sound quality is excellent. Apple Music streams content at 256kbps, using AAC, and they’ve recently introduced lossless audio compression that true audiophiles may appreciate.

Another plus is that you can easily access your own music via any device. They also offer a human-curated Radio station, which features top artists and shows, and is excellent for discovering new or unreleased music.

2. Spotify

I always manage to find my way back to Spotify on a regular basis, probably because, in my opinion, this service is the best for music discoverability, and they excel at tailoring playlists. As for recommendations, they always nail it, and because of them, I’ve discovered many new musical artists over the years. Their daily recommended mixes are typically spot-on, and I love their Discover Weekly mix, which changes weekly. Their collaborative playlists are also a favorite feature of mine.

They’ve recently added podcasts to their offerings, which I don’t use as I typically listen to them using an iPhone app, but this might be a plus for other people. Their app is also beautifully designed, ascetically pleasing, and user-friendly, and they make it easy to find the content you’re looking for quickly. The Spotify platform is also supported by most voice assistants—including Siri, Google Assistant, and Alexa.

Truth be told, there’s not really anything that I dislike about the service. Additionally, choosing the highest quality on Spotify will get you a stream of 320kb/s, while YouTube Music and Apple Music max out at 256 kb/s (though now Apple offers a lossless streaming format for specific devices).

3. YouTube Music

So if I don’t dislike anything about Spotify, you might be wondering why don’t I stick with it? That’s because the third service, YouTube Music, offers a couple of things the others don’t. For one thing, my spouse has a family membership to YouTube premium, which means that even if I switch to another service, we’re still paying for it.

What I really love about the service, however, are the music videos. Formerly, I spent a lot of time on YouTube watching them, but now, they’re rolled right into their music app. I enjoy watching my favorite artists perform their songs live. And in addition to official releases from record labels, YouTube Music has tons of remixes, fan-created covers, mashups, and more, resulting in quite a massive music selection.

But probably the main thing that keeps me with the service is that I love the fact that it also comes bundled with ad-free YouTube. That is to say, I never see ads when I’m watching videos on YouTube — it’s all part of the premium package. Though I don’t find their music discoverability quite as good as Spotify’s, they do have several recommended mixes from which I’ve found new favorite musicians.

Another huge plus for me is the ability to upload my own music. While I can access music I own on Apple Music, it’s not quite so easy with Spotify and requires a bit of hoop-jumping (in other words, it’s a huge pain).

Verdict

The verdict is inconclusive. There are things I love about each of them, and there have even been times where I’ve subscribed to more than one of the services: YouTube Music & Spotify or YouTube Music & Apple Music (and one time, all three). But then I think about what a waste of money it is, given that their music libraries are mostly similar.

So, for now, I subscribe only to YouTube Music but will undoubtedly be revisiting the others in the future as they are all worthy competitors, and I’m often tempted by the greener grass on the other side.

How about you? What’s your favorite music streaming service?

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